boobies and boyfriend issues

Hi just wondering if anyone out there has gone/is going through something similar.. I’m currently pre op and haven’t booked my surgery yet. However my boyfriend admitted to me AFTER we became an official couple that he is in fact a “boob man”. Now I am a very small a cup. This naturally I think has made me very insecure in our relationship. I’ve seen he’s looked at girls on fb etc who all coincidently have big boobs. And it causes arguments. He says he’s obsessed with big boobs and he’s not trying to hurt me he’s just being brutally honest.
Now I’ve always wanted a BA. Even before my bf I’ve always been self concious taking my top off in front of guys because I feel like a child up top. But I guess I’m just frustrated because he’s really excited about it when I feel he should be like “I love you whether you get one or not” and he says how much better our sex life will be as well!! But then it’s not really like he’s pressuring me because I would love them myself. Uh what do you ladies think? Am I being over sensitive?

I’d tell your bf to get lost the cheeky twat lol xx

Hiya Lauren,
Personally I don’t think your being over sensitive, I think it was really mean of your boyfriend to all of a sudden mention that he’s obsessed with big boobs, as he must of known this would hurt your feelings. Me and my ex are thinking of getting back together (nothing to do with my boob job) and after having my op he admitted that he normally preferred women with big boobs but he’d never of said that to me before as he wouldn’t have wanted to hurt my feelings, as in his eyes I was prefect before and after my op. So, in my opinion your right, he should be saying that he’d love you just as much either way. I hope that doesn’t sound mean but I believe everyone deserves someone that loves them inside and out and makes them feel special, not insecure. Have you been together long? x x

I’m in a similar situation, I hated my boobs because they were tiny but knew my boyfriend loved women with big boobs, he’s never outright disrespected me with comments but it’s always been a issue. Eventually i ended up getting a boob job to deal with my issues and feel more comfortable and confident, my boyfriend did tell me he loved me the way i am and not to do it but i needed to for myself. Your not being over sensitive tell him where to go when he’s disrespectful if you get a boob job do it for you not to please him ☺ x

We’ve been together about a year and a half now.. and you know that way it’s hard to talk to my close friends about it because I don’t want them to hate him as they’re very overprotective so I just decided to vent on here a bit. And I don’t mind at all I’d like to hear some honest opinions!! I’m glad you guys agree because I really took massive offense to him saying that. Even though he swears he’s just being brutally honest and says would I rather he was dishonest and “don’t I think it’s equally difficult for him as he loves me so much but he has an obsession that he can’t help for big boobs”

Gone through something similar! My bf hasn’t said he’s a boob man, but told me he “wouldn’t mind” if I had bigger boobs and told me he’d even stretch them for me, said it in the middle of a shop and I was just mortified. The knob! I know he only said the stretching stuff as a joke but it really upset me. He said it years ago and I’ve just never been able to stop thinking about it and am very insecure around him. I go to the bathroom to get changed so I don’t have to do it in front of him ? Now I’m at the point of looking into a BA and he keeps trying to change my mind. MEN!

I don’t think you’re being over sensitive at all! It’s really upsetting. I thought I must have been the only one! Xx

It could be worse, you could have paid £5000 on a boob job for your boyfriend to say well actually I’m a bum guy ? afraid I don’t have that kind of money now babe! But yeah he shouldn’t have said that and before I had mine id never take my bra off and stuff but now I’m so comfortable it’s strange 🙂 xxx

You’re going to hate me for this comment, but I don’t think he will have said it to make you feel insecure, men like boobs. End of. And men don’t think before they speak a lot of the time. That’s men. I would let it slide and not be too bothered by it. Men will always look at boobs, it’s completely natural.
It shouldn’t make you feel insecure because he’s with you for a reason other than that. If it was such a massive big deal for him then he wouldn’t be with you so it will just be a passing comment. My fella is also a massive boob man and is ecstatic that I am having mine done (he’s even paying half) but he would be happy either way, boobs are boobs at the end of the day. That sort of comment id take with a pinch of salt 🙂

I completely get what you mean about talking to close friends, as me and my ex have had our fair share of drama and talking to my friends about it has made them hate him abit, so they are not supportive of us getting back together 🙁 To be brutally honest, if he had that big an obsession he would not have got with you in the first place or stayed with you so long. So I call bullshit on him saying he can’t help it and that it’s difficult for him! I mean how would he feel if you said you had an obsession for bodybuilders or guys who are huge down below or anything else that would hurt him. x x

Yeah I think I’m just used to guys from my past telling me my small boobs aren’t an issue and they like my bum anyway lol they are prob lying but still it boosted my confidence a bit in the bedroom! I think you always want the guy your with to think your perfect and now I feel like I know he doesn’t. I don’t think he said it to hurt me he’s just very honest about his feelings to the point where he’s missing a sensitivity chip!! I know this is so bad but I find myself watching him in the street to see if he’s looking at the girl with the amazing cleavage coming towards us (and of course he usually has noticed) and it feels like a slap in the face ! I hate that though as when I’m not with him I’ve always appreciated a good looking female and admired them!! I won’t lie since being with him it’s made me want my boobs even more… which I know your not meant to admit! It’s meant to be 100 percent for me and not men etc.. it’s just hard 🙁

I think your boyfriend is a complete dick, I’ve bin in a similar situation and it knocks your confidence loads. And where you say walking down the street is like that I no exasacly how you feel. He has put that insecurity there by letting you see him look at other girls on Facebook

It’s sooo upsetting isn’t it! I always sit and just wish that he’d never said it in the first place and he says I’ve taken it to heart and shouldn’t have taken it seriously. I bet it would be different if I’d have said something to him! Ahh it’s the worst!

I can’t believe he would say that to you no wonder you feel how u do. I felt the same with my partner although he would say he likes little boobs and isn’t bothered about them being big I kno that was a lie xx

I don’t think you’re being over sensitive at all! If he was such a boob man then he should of said before you got together, not now and knock your confidence like that. I guess at least he’s being honest but there’s ways of going about it, I’d laugh and be like “yeah I’ve always been a woman who likes a big strong man and a man with a big you know what but you know sometimes you have to settle” hahaha! Plus if you get them done and then men are all of a sudden staring at your new assets he might not like that either. I think in regards to getting it done you should ask yourself, when I was single did I want a boob job really bad? If you did want a breast augmentation even before he was in the picture and you think it will make YOU feel better then do it because it’s about you, stuff him! But if not don’t because it’s a big decision and if he’s ever out the picture then you might regret it. I bet you look stunning either way and I’m sure he still loves you for you though so don’t worry too much xxx

He sounds like a complete c*nt if I’m being honest, he’s obviously a artificial guy who goes for girls based on there body parts and the fact he’s saying your sex life will be better if you had bigger boobs that says a lot about he’s intelligence he has none, I would tell him to do one if I’m honest, sounds like you’re getting a boob job more to impress him or to make him happy when that shouldn’t be the case, if I were you I would get bigger boobs for your sake then dump him make him regret saying those things he said to you

I agree with Emilyn he sounds like a di”k in my opinion I would get rid of him and find someone who loves you for you. You deserve better then someone like him xx

See I’m the other way round he tried talking me out of it and I was adamant I wanted them done as I was tubular he just couldn’t understand why I wanted them done (he’s a bum guy) but now he loves them and uses them as a pillow sometimes! He will tell me he preferred me before but he also knows I will get them done again and go for smaller implants and an uplift! I think you need to sit and think are you doing this 100% for you and not just to please him x

Hi lauren, i had my surgery yesterday and although everything went well and smoothly its such a huge thing to put your body through! For the past week i have been so emotionally drained up and down considering canceling questioning my reasons….. In the end i advice you step back and ONLY go through with this if it is what YOU want!! Its tough hun i am so happy my surgery went so well but honestly this past week has worn me down with the emotions, one min really excited the next terrified! Feeling like this is pretty common from what ive heard from other girls, buy ontop of that you do not need preasure from tour boyfriend! Its not like changing your hair colour or something small its a huge thing! Please think about whats best for you hun! Best of luck xxxx

I’ve not been with my partner long about 10 months I’ve always been very open that I wanted my boobs doing. But he’s been so supportive it’s unreal and he’s a bum man but I don’t think he’s going to complain of the extra boob, which I’m mega excited now it’s all booked and paid for! But he’s always told me if it makes you happy you should do it but he thinks My boobs are fine but he knows it would really upset me to say “i love big boobs” when he knows I’m seriously not comfortable with them at all, which is how any partner should be. Sorry you feel so down, just make sure your doing it for the right reasons and because it’s 110% what you want xx

Thanks girls for giving me your honest opinions… it’s all what I kind of thought myself anyway. It’s hard because I only really talk about these issues with him as i dont want my friends to hate him and he’s always very defensive and makes me feel like I’m being over sensitive about his behaviour! I need to have a serious think about whether I want to be with him… thanks girls x

He needs to grow up and you need not take it to heart lovely. I booked my BA when I was 19 for similar reasons and cancelled 6 weeks before because I was scared and doing it for the wrong reasons. My bf at the time was 10 years older than me and used to leave me in bed to go downstairs watching porn of a similar nature. I left him as soon as I found out, but you don’t have to split up with him, you just need to be confident in who you are and if he doesn’t accept that then you need to leave him behind and be with someone who loves you for you, or be on your own. Ultimately, it doesn’t matter how big your implants, which if you’re teeny weeny won’t be that big anyway, you’re never going to be a “big busty babe”. Your frame isn’t made for that. Think, if you weren’t with him, would you still want them done? Never EVER do anything like this for someone else, it’s you’re body. You may as well have his name tattooed across your chest, if you’d never do that, then do not do it. He won’t change and you’ll most likely regret it xxx

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Thanks hun your right I’ll never be a huge busty. I fact when we went to try them on at my consultation instead of saying how good they looked and how exciting it was the first thing he said was “I thought they’d be bigger” but they felt huge to me! I was so hurt by it!

And I’d always thought I would like a boon job ever since I realised in my teens that they weren’t going to grow. But I always thought it was too risky that something might go wrong and anyway I could never afford it. But since I’ve come on here and read all you girls stories it’s made me want them so much!

All men love big boobs! Their men! Even if men say that their ‘ass guys’ they still would not complain about you having nice big tits if you had them! Most guys who say their ass guys also say it because you don’t have tits haha! At the end of the day it’s not what your bf thinks it’s about what you think! My ex used to go on about tits all the time! He loved them and used to stare and like pics of girls who had massive boobs it made me 100 times more self conscious than I’ve ever been. I’m not with that guy anymore thank god and my new bf says he loves me the way Iam and tells me that I should do whatever makes me happy! (I know secretly he’s begging me to get them in his brain) luckily he’s an ‘ass guy’ haha yeah whatever! But hey when I get my boobs I’ll have the ass and the tits ☺️? Haha nah do not do it for the men at the end of the day of you do it do someone else your making them happy and if you don’t end up together forever you’ll resent everything! Do it for you! I’m 24 I’m u happy with my boobs it affects me and my sex life but I’m doing it because they are my boobs not my boyfriends, never do anything for a bloody man!!! But think also… Your young, these are your most precious years, it’s just money and get them if they’ll make YOU happy not your shallow boyfriend ☺️ No offence! Us girls stick together! And I’ll be rubbing my boobs for weeks before my boyfriends allowed his hands on them!!!! Even though he’s been so supportive and loves me they way Iam (yeah whatever aye!) do it for you girl!!!!!!!!!!!

He sounds like a dick, no offence! How can he put you down like that? Abigail’s right you’re still young, I put myself off for years thinking I’d rather get a car or a house, I’ve just turned 26 and I’ve got all those things now, owned my car at 21, owned my house at 23 and felt in my head like I was responsible enough to spend my money on this now. It’s something I wanted from being 15, not what my boyfriends wanted. You must do it for you, if you do go for it, pick the size YOU want that will suit your frame. I have friends who went too big and have to wear 2 sports bras to go to the gym, they have chronic back age, rippling, stretch marks. You have to take care of your body and mind first and foremost, not his head, which sounds like it’s in his bell end!
Girl power! Keep us posted little one ??

Thanks girls! We’ve just fallen out because he’s been creeping on the same girls on fb/instagram that I’ve asked him not to because it upsets me… it’s not random famous models either it’s girls he actually knows who all have big boobs. I’ve asked him so many times to stop… it’s not just the odd time it’s every week. He just says it’s harmless and he’s just “obsessed with boobs” and he’s been missing them since being with me. He says I just shouldn’t look through his fb and instagram… but if I don’t look the problem is still there I’d just be choosing to turn a blind eye!?!? Ahhhh I just feel he could be so much nicer about the whole thing… I genuinely don’t think he understands why I’m so upset!!!!!

I’m going to say this again he is a d?ck I can’t believe he said that to you with is he playing at. He’s been missing boobs since he’s been with you OMG I would kick him into next week if I were you. You should start looking at other mens you kno what and say I wonder what it would be like if you had a big Di *k xx

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I’m going to say this again he is a d?ck I can’t believe he said that to you what is he playing at. He’s been missing boobs since he’s been with you OMG I would kick him into next week if I were you. You should start looking at other mens you kno what and say I wonder what it would be like if you had a big Di *k xx

Err what a pig! Get him sacked off, you don’t need to put up with that shit!

Well I’m the opposite I had mine done in June and my fella just dosnt seem one bit interested in them . I was so excited to have them done and I love them and thought he would too but nothing … He was really supportive of me having them done but hardly looks at them now why ?? girls it’s getting me down x

God that is so heartbreaking!!! Because I can imagine if I got them done and he turned round and said something like oh they’re still really small and continued to make me feel bad about my boobs. Is he insecure with himself? Maybe he doesn’t feel sexy himself and now you look amazing he feels worse about himself?? So weird was he excited for you to get them done?? Or maybe he’s deliberately not wanting to give you a big head or something?? Xxx

oh this is upsetting.. I wouldn’t like it at all if he was checking out all the girls online with big boobs. Obviously men will be men but still. Ive been with my bf for 7 years..he says he’s a bum man but if the girl has nice big boobs its a bonus. i have like 32aa so I’m very insecure. i don’t go swimming, i will sunbathe fully clothed on top, won’t get changed in front of him,won’t take my bra off ever ever! he says he’s not bothered but i feel like i look in the mirror and see how awful they are and think theres no way he’s seeing them. he says when we first got together i was confident at letting him see them and whats happened now . I think you’ve got to listen to yourself and do what you feel is right.

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