Just told my Dad! So relieved Started by: Hollie

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  • Hollie 30
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    I was really worrying about telling my dad mixture of being embarrassed , not knowing how to word it and also what he will think
    I’m so relieved as he was fine with it and said it’s my body and I’m an adult so it’s up to me but he is happy for me
    And says he didn’t know I was unhappy

    Anonymous
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    Makes you feel soo much better doesn’t other I told my mum two weeks ago she told me to F off.. never heard her swear I 30 years of my life especially other at me.. anyway I slipped up telling her I couldn’t have my operation cause of my Mrsa swab least it’s out though x

    Tyler 38
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    I still have this to come haha. Telling my mum I’ve booked surgery was easy as she’s had a BA herself, not sure how my dad will react though!

    Sam 21
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    Aw hollie im so glad it went well with your dad was thinking about you before. I’ve just got back from a quick visit to my on/off ex who told me he will need counciling to be able to sleep with me again after I get my boobs done. Talk about supportive! Xx

    Hollie 30
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    @donnaxx – yes! It’s so good to have finally said it lol, omg your mum swore at you :’) ah I bet that have her a good reason to say I told you so !

    @taydial
    – ah I thought I’d never tell him lol, lucky your mum has had it! Couldn’t get a better person to tell it to! Lol – just go for it, I am sure it’ll be fine 🙂

    @littlebirdx
    – ahhh thankyou Hun! I was gonna tag you in this but forgot to get your username thing. So glad I did it! You prompted me to do it so thanks 🙂
    Omg whaaat!! Why is he saying that! :O counselling? Having nice boobs is supposed to be a good thing haha

    Sam 21
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    Still wants me to cancel and its in bloody 9 days lol. Says he can’t bear big boobs, won’t find me attractive.. Tbh I’m beyond caring. He’s not an on/off for nothing!! Hate em all lmao xx

    Hollie 30
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    Loool fat chance! :’)
    That’s very odd but obviously each to their own I suppose,
    lol I imagine you have very good reasons !
    Yeah don’t blame you ! Xx

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    Such a relief isn’t it?! I told my parents I think 8 weeks PO! X

    Laura 9
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    I still haven’t told my mum or dad and I’m nearly 5 weeks post op. Just keep wearing jumpers when I see them. May have to come clean in summer. I’m scared to though they won’t be happy at all..my mum doesn’t approve of anything like this at all!x

    Hollie 30
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    yes it is a relief! oh wow 8 weeks after! what did they say? haha

    ahh it is really hard isn’t it laura, i really didn’t want to do it. Especially when your oarents don’t approve it must be a whole lot more difficult,
    it’s like how do you word it , you can’t just come out with it and then it’s the embrarssment/confrontation of it
    luckily i did it over the phone with my Dad and it was a lot easier, if i had to do it in person i probably would have still not told him by now

    Laura 9
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    Over the phones a great idea! I might do it by text then I won’t hear them shout!
    It’s awful, my mum asked me if I was a 32a the other day (I’m guessing I’m getting a bra for Xmas) and I just nodded and stayed quiet. Would have been a perfect opportunity but I bottled it x

    Chesc 3
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    I was exactly the same!! I had no problem telling my mum as she’s had one too, but I was so nervous to tell my dad as I’d briefly mentioned/hinted it in the past and he started a massive lecture on natural beauty, never being happy with yourself, vanity blah blah blah! But having no boobs at all has affected my self confidence so so badly and he knows that now as I went through a terrible time with my body after being so unhappy in my skin. I actually took my grandma to the first two consultations, came home so happy and giddy so my dad was really suspicious as to where we’d been! Kept asking questions like ‘where have you been?” “out” “out where?” “liverpool” “what for?” “lunch” “where did you eat?” “a restaurant” “what did you have?” haha! Thankfully my mum came home to save me from the interrogation and we decided to tell him together and he was surprisingly really happy for me! He just wants me to be happy and has realised it’s not because I’m vain, it’s just the one thing I have a massive hang up about. Sorry for the novel!! But to anyone worried to tell either of their parents, I think there’s an assumption about boob jobs that we all just want to be Page 3 models and are obsessed with how we look above anything else! So just tell them your reasons for doing it and try to get them to understand, for me it was affecting my confidence, my relationships and the way I felt in clothes when I went on on night out xxx

    Hollie 30
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    Yes i highly recommend it!! mind you, if you text them and they are angry they might ring you and shout down the phone lol , hopefully not though!
    oh god really D: yes i’d have been the same, cause if you just suddenly came out and said ‘no ive actually had a boob job and now am size …. ‘ i am sure she would have been shocked
    The best way i think to do it , and this is how i have said it to my mum and dad (seperately)
    ‘by the way i’m having some surgery in a few weeks’ (or in your case ‘had some surgery over a month ago but was too woried what you’d think)
    and then theyre like ‘o right, whats that then?’
    and i said ‘ erm i’m having a breast enlargement’ and they are a bit shocked but seem ok with it
    but obviously your parents will be different, but you never know, they may be more ok with it than you thought, if you really give them reasons why

    myamoderator 138
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    Hi Hollie, this is really sweet and it is something alot of MYA patients worry about.

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    x

    Hollie 30
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    @Chescwalsh – I didn’t see your reply till now! im glad your mum came and saved you haha, i think i was the exact same as you tbh!! i really thoguht he would not like it but as soon as he knew it was cause i just wasn’t confident and have wnated it for like 10 years, he realised
    and OH MY GOD! you have hit the nail on the head there with the pre-conceptions bit! that’s exactly what i feel like everyone will think when i mention it, and so thats what made me hesitate in telling anyone, people suddenly jump in thinking youre gonna go all fake and it’s a bad idea cause youre being vain and ‘youre fine the way you are’
    but honestly, once they realise you’re being sensible and literally it’s so that you can be in proportion with the rest of the body, then they understand!! i have big hips and my boobs just do not match! see my pictures below


    @myamoderator
    – Aw thankyou! i Just thought it’d be a good topic to mention because I didn’t seem to find any solely relating to telling your parents! 🙂 x

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