Should I wait? Started by: Anonymous

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  • Anonymous
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    I’m only 19 (20 in a few month) and I’ve always felt massively insecure about my breasts. I’m a 32A (barely ????) and just lately I’ve grown to absolutely detest my breasts more than I ever have and it’s taking a bigger toll on my self confidence more than ever! I’ve spoken with my mum who thinks I don’t need a boob job (obviously she’d say that) but her argument is that I’m extremely petite. I’m 5foot 4 with a 24 inch waist and weigh about 7 stone. I wouldn’t want anything ridiculously big, I am just sick of having no confidence and comparing myself to every girl I see, it’s even at a point where I don’t feel 100% comfortable around my boyfriend (naked I mean) because I feel like he’ll be focusing on my breast size just as much as me and it’s caused a fair few arguments since he found out I’ve been considering breast enlargement. I just feel like it could be a phase given that I am still quite young but equally this lack of confidence is taking a massive toll on me and I don’t know how much longer I can deal with it frankly. It’s constantly on my mind, 24/7, and I’ve never felt like that before. I’m a university student and have managed to save enough to actually pay for the procedure outright, it’s literally just a case of do I do it now or do I wait?

    Claire Glover 37
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    Well, I’m 24 and I’ve only just settled on it now.

    I’ve hated mine since I started to develop so I’ve been toying with the idea on and off since I was 21 as 21 is the age you’re fully developed.
    Also from personal experience I’ve never had a problem with partners judging me for my boobs, men are actually pretty understanding if they are with you for the right reasons.
    In the past I’ve just explained that I’m not so self confident with certain things and they have been completely fine with it.
    I have a group of friends 8 of which are male with partners and if spoken to all my friends about it none of them have ever said boobs are something they absolutley prefer (including the girls as they all have a good set on them haha infact one of the girls can’t understand why I want bigger boobs).

    If This is something you really really want why don’t you take a year researching it from ages 20 – 21 have as many consultations as you want and take your partner with you, ask then as many questions as possible and look at all the before and after pictures on here. See surgeons and do the same, some of them also have Instagram pages so you can see some of their work on that.

    Take as much time as possible to figure it out and make sure this is something you would 100% want.

    The reason I waited until 24 was actually because I was too scared to book an appointment and I didn’t have much money saved. A few months ago after loosing some weight again I was completely fed up with my body being out of proportion and so I bit the bullet, I just went for an appointment I saw 2 different companies and settle on mya after I met my surgeon I booked my appointment as soon as I could and it’s on next Friday! So fingers crossed everything goes all Okay, after reading all the comments on here from girls that have had them I feel like I’ve made the right choice.

    Good luck in your journey! 🙂 xx

    Louise 90
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    Hey lovely! I’m 19 also.. been with my boyfriend over a year now and still dontnt feel comfortable taking my bra off around him, it has nothing to do with what society says I should look like, it’s my own self confidence issues. I have wanted breast enlargement since I was 16, and my OP is Tomorrow!! It’s one of the most nervous, exciting things you’ll ever do, but I hope long term it will be worth it. I don’t expect to get new bigger boobs and have all this confidence, that comes from yourself but I’m hoping it will help me love me more if you understand ? You can be Petite and still have an enlargement, a small implant goes a long way on those who have small frames. If it’s something you want to do and really believe it will bring some happiness/confidence your way do it, you live once, do whatever makes YOU happy and no one else xxx

    Diana 55
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    I’m 27, only had it done this year. I’ve felt the same as you since I’ve been a teenager and I finally plucked the courage to do it this year. I’ve been unhappy since my early teenage years and had the surgery on my mind for many years but never had enough courage to do it. I was very flat chested before, not even a 32A, I’d say do it as you’ll feel so much better straight away! I wish I’ve done it earlier.

    Halley 40
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    I’m 31 this week, hated my boobs since I started to develop and stayed at that stage. It has caused well over a decade of tears, anxiety, lack of confidence and I honestly hate that I didn’t do this sooner. I always wanted one but felt the financial aspect held me back as I couldn’t justify the spend when I was already struggling with money. Looking back I could slap myself as I honestly believe things could have been so different and nothing is more important than feeling happy and confident. Like you it has interfered with my relationships. I don’t like people seeing, or now even touching, my breasts – it’s just got worse with time. I’ve always felt the need to apologise to anyone in the bedroom for I guess ‘providing them with lack of tits’ – crazy I know but that’s essentially what I’m saying whenever I’ve said “I have to tell you something, I have the tiniest breasts you’ll ever see” as I remove my padded bra. I never found clothes to fit right, swimming has always been a huge stress inducer. I have a narrow waist and very curvy hips/thighs/legs so always felt extremely bottom heavy no matter what I wore. I’ve always felt a fraud in my padded bras, which are my daily bras, I’ve never been able to boost my breast for a night out because I’ve constantly got them as good as I can get them just to go the shops with a shirt/jumper on just so I don’t feel like a boy. I’m also a semi-professional bellydancer and as much as I can’t find regular bras to fit, I have a worse time with costumes. At least with a regular bra if there is any gaping where you can see nipple it can be hidden by clothes (nearly always if I try and pick something up you can see down the bra, and I’m not wearing the wrong size bra I’ve been sized and tried and tested many times – there is always boob gapage). You just can’t do that when the bra is all you’re wearing up top, and dancing around people in restaurants who are trying to eat or on stage where photographers are trying to get permanent pictures of what you look like, costume malfunctions and all… its been such a struggle with has left me with very limited costume choice and don’t get any of the incredible high end costumes. Also regular bras with lace material, never been able to wear one as the lace just says no matter what size I get, although I have quite wide breasts so a size A cup would just dig in the sides, I really need a b/c cup to avoid it digging in, which is ludicrous. As soon as I can I’m wearing all the lace!!

    Sorry for the long reply but I can honestly say I haven’t even had them done yet and my biggest regret was not doing it sooner. I hate that I went through my 20s like this and can’t wait to put it right. The stress waiting for the day is a nightmare as I’m just obsessing now, the last few weeks have been torture – just stick ‘em in me already! X

    Siobhan 10
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    I’m 32 and honestly regret not booking my surgery sooner as I’ve wanted them done since I was at least 17/18.

    If it’s something that you desperately want done, and your self confidence is effected by it then I say book it. Obviously make sure you do your research and think about it long and hard as it is a massive thing but don’t live your life unhappy, life is too short.

    Dazzelea 91
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    I’m 40 Hun and I wished I had done it when I was young so many year of no confidence . And Im 4 weeks post op and I’m already feeling so much better about my self xx

    Maria 21
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    If you feel like that’s go for it. I’m 4 months po n love wearing tight low cut clothes. Feel so confident, no regrets. DO IT! Xx

    Anonymous
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    Thanks for the help 🙂 I’m lucky I have my boyfriend who is very incredibly understanding and he always says if im happy he’s happy but he does say I dont need to change anything and that “more than a handful is a waste” ( and to be fair I do have more than a handful- unless someone had huge hands haha) and I appreciate him trying to make me feel better and more often than not it does help and he makes me feel incredibly confident with the compliments he gives me but its just one of those things that always comes back around a bites me on the back side :/
    I certainly dont want to rush anything because I am currently trying to gain weight because I wasn’t happy with how slim I was and wanted my BMI to be a little bit higher, I hoping maybe whilst doing that my breast size will go up a bit then maybe I won’t feel as bad but im definitely going to sit and have a think about it, I certainly wouldn’t want to get the procedure at any point next year given its my last year of uni, I can’t really afford to be spending time away, plus I dont want this to be a thing where one week I’ve no boobs, next week im at uni with double D’s, I’d rather it be over the summer or something so not as many people would notice, its not a shame thing but I just feel like for me personally, I’d rather keep it private. But thank you all for the advice, its nice to talk to people who have/ are experiencing the same thing. As I said, I’ve spoken to my mum who swears she had small boobs when she was around my age and that they only became (and luckily for her) stayed big after she had my sister. But my sister also has quite small assets and she’s ten years older which puts a bit of a dampener on my whole ‘weight gain may = bigger boobs’ idea because I think the reason I have small boobs is purely genetic and I know theres nothing I can do to change that.

    But again thanks for all the advice, its certainly given me a lot to think about and I’ll keep doing my research and wait until im a little older until any big decisions are made, its a lot of money to spend and a big change to make when you’re still on the fence about it xx

    louisek 8
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    Hi babe.

    I’m 20 and I had mine done 9 days ago! Best thing I’ve done. I’ve literally wanted them done since I was 12 and realised by boobies were just never gunna grow. My mum absolutely HATED the thought of it to begin with as did the rest of my family, but I went travelling last year and I decided getting my boobs were my goal for this year and when I told my family I was getting them and serious about it they were fully supportive. (Which I honestly never thought would happen) I’m so so glad I’ve got them done as I was completely flat chested, 30AA no skin nothing and I’ve had 325cc high profiles. Not sure if I’m happy with size yet but early days I suppose. But just think seriously about it and maybe have some consultations and see how you feel because for me that’s when it set in that I knew I was making the right choice getting them!

    Good luck girl x

    Anonymous
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    I’m 18 years old and had the operation done. I had tiny and tubular breasts which knocked my self esteem, watching everyone else develop and I had none. I always hear people say their only regret is not getting it done sooner! I’m so glad I did it.

    Lisa 2
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    I’m 35 hun I’m 5’3 n weigh 7.6 stone n I’m a size 6 n I’ve just booked mine for the 18th may n I’m so excited as I’ve wanted them doin since I can remember lol as I don’t even fill a 32a properly,I’m getting 325cc which should take me to a big c small d so don’t look too big for my frame but my advise is same as the rest….do it lol…do ur homework n go with what’s best for u cos that’s what it’s about hun I’m so lucky my bf paying for mine but it’s not cos he wants me to have big boobs as he loves mine the way they r but he knows I really don’t n it’s a big thing for us women ain’t it,I feel less of a women than my 17yr old as she got bigger boobs than me n has for yrs lol I c myself as a 35 yr old trapped in a 13 yr olds body so that’s why I’m saying go for it as I’ve felt this way for yrs now n it’s awful So yea the 18th can’t come quick enuf for me,…exciting times xx

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