To any mums who had BA Started by: meesh

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    Ok, so I had Everything worked out, my Sis was going to come stay with me for couple weeks after ba to help me with my kids (6, 4 & 9 months). They are with their Dad the night of my surgery and following day but he’s then bringing them back (currently going through divorce and he’s trying to sort a house and till he does won’t have them over night). We’ll long story short my sister has gone off rails and now won’t be staying. Thing is my mum manic busy with her own business so it’s looking like u have my ba on the Friday then from Saturday evening it me and kids. I’m petrified that I’m going to pull my stitches lifting my baby out her cot or going to be so ill I won’t be able to look after them. Can’t rearrange op as back at work in September. My x is going to get kids after work, give them t etc but in day it’s me on my own. Any advice, would be an extreme help. My older 2 are really good it’s just looking after the baby I’m worried about.

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    Oh I don’t know Hun. The first 3 days you won’t be able to lift and you’ll be in pain so you definitely need childcare. After that you could probably manage. My op was on the Monday and I had the kids alone on the Friday. Be prepared you may have to stay overnight like I did. So I didn’t come home till Tuesday aft. Wed my friend came and helped me with lifting etc and Thursday they went to my mother in laws. Do you have any friends that would be willing to come and help out? You really won’t be able to lift baby for first 3 days Hun. Xx

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    Def agree with Danielle. I’ve got 4 kids, 7, 5 & 18mth old twins & didn’t even try lifting the boys till 8 days after.

    Lizzy
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    I def agree with Danielle too Hun, days 3 + 4 are the worst (well they were for me luv), so u definitely won’t b able to lift yr baby, also u would need someone there just for u, as most women feel really crap for the first week due to the meds. Have u got a friend that cd pop round? X x

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    I couldn’t lift the kettle on day 3 let alone a child!! I lifted them on the Sunday but even then it felt wrong. X

    meesh 1
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    I really don’t know what to do. Im staying in London on Fri night after my op. Then kids were meant to be coming back Saturday night, he’ll put them to bed before he leaves. I’m goin to ask him to have them all day Sunday too. Then Monday and Tuesday my friend Is coming over for day so she’ll help make out. I don’t know wether to just get my Sis to stay and just grin and bear her for a week. Selfish I know but I’ve waited 13 yrs for this and now I just feel gutted over the whole thing. 🙁

    AmyJ
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    I’m 7 days post op and haven’t attempted to lift my 8 month old yet don’t feel I could hurts to get dressed, hoping I’m feeling better by Monday tho as other half back at work so il have no choice then. Hope u get sorted good luck xx

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    Thanks hun. Well sat down with my Sis this evening and had good chat. She’s going to come stay for 2 weeks and understands implicitly she has to behave. She’s havin a hard time at mo but u dont need the drama bought to my door. She’s said she’s looking forward to time with kids so fingers crossed she sticks to it. So relieved. Xxx

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