Anyone else's partner quite negative about having BA?

I’m a very small 30 AA after breastfeeding 2 children. I’ve always wanted bigger boobs since I was younger, before my kids I was a small B cup. Pregnancy boosted me to a 30 DD then I was a 30 E while feeding. My partner was ok with the idea before but now he’s being really negative towards me wanting to go for it. Hes said that I’m materialistic for wanting it done and I’m insecure and not confident. I don’t think that I’m insecure or not confident, I know too much info but I love being naked. I know females who don’t allow anyone to see their bodies and won’t take off their tops around their partners. I don’t think wanting or getting your breast enlarged means you’re not confident in yourself or you’re insecure but he says it all the time that makes me think that maybe he’s right and maybe I am?
Anyone else’s partner say similar?

@laura-Jane my partner was similar at first he didn’t want me to get it done then eventually came round to the idea and gave me 500 pound towards it he’s been ok up until saterdsy when he made a sly remark think my bf the inseacure one not me there probly just thinking we’re gonna have all these men staring at us maybe they feel threatend by it your bf might come round to the idea he liked to begin with so what’s changed ?think he’s thinking the worse and trying to put you off by using words about you to turn it into a negative thing or maybe he is looking out for you and if your happy with your body why change it but atvtge same time if you want a certain look you should go for it I’m sure your bf has a certain way he likes to look same goes for us girls I say !!

I’m having mine in a couple of weeks, and my bf keeps going through a negative frame of mind, unsure and worrying. He has always said he doesnt think i need it, but he also agreed to support me through it. He kostly does, but like i say always tells me he is worried and still sould rather I didnt have it done. I sort of feel that if he loves me, he will love with whether i get it done or not, you know? It your body, do what makes you happy 🙂 x

@laura-Jane absolutely he will come round wouldn’t worry to much hope your op goes ok what you having if u don’t mind me asking x

Sorry ment @ Lauren x

In my opinion, it may be that HE is the insecure one and is worried about you being more confident and getting more attention. He probably has worries and anxieties the same as you because he cares- but don’t let it turn something positive into something negative. Just reassure him that it doesn’t mean you will be looking at anyone else! X

@donnamarie I’m sure he will! I’m having either 350 and 375 or 375 and 400 (slight assymetry) high profile partials 🙂 19 days to go! xx

Hey Donna Marie thanks for replying. In the beginning he was more like ok if that’s what you want I’ll support you and even offered to pay for it for my birthday. I’ve been to consultations got my hopes up then he was like making up excuses and longing it all off. This was just before New Years. Couple months ago I’ve said to him that I’m ok to save and do it all myself as it’s something for me and something I want to do and he like went off on one. I’ve not really mentioned it to him since. But I’d like to go ahead and go for it but I need his support and I don’t think I’m going to get it 🙁

@donnamarie what are you having?? xx

Hey Sarah! I think you’re right, I think he will be worried about me being more confident and that’s why he’s saying those things to put me off the idea. Thanks for the reply 🙂 x

Hi Lauren – it’s true, if he’s loves you it shouldn’t matter wether you get them done or not. It is our bodies and we have the decisions on what we do.

What size are you at the moment if you don’t mind me asking? Sorry just butting into you and Donna’s chat now lol

@saraht1988

“In my opinion, it may be that HE is the insecure one and is worried about you being more confident and getting more attention. He probably has worries and anxieties the same as you because he cares- but don’t let it turn something positive into something negative. Just reassure him that it doesn’t mean you will be looking at anyone else! X” couldn’t have said it better myself!!!!!!

my motto in life is always to do what makes you happy and fuck anybody else x

Hi Laura Jane, thats ok haha
I am currently a small 32C (my c bras are literally super padded and boost your bust by upto 3 sizes haha)!! What are you?
Try not to let your partner influence you or put you off! I went throughh a phase of feeling guilty for booking it, but then as time passed i thought no, this is my body, i’m not happy, i’ll do what I want to do 🙂 xxx

@lauren hey Lauren I’m having 250cc hp overs with ms lutz on 22 August …lol your ops not far off I bet your well excited now are u nervous ? Hope it goes well and hope your bf comes round to the idea x

I’m a 30/32 AA right now. Basically just nipple lol. My bras are padded out too. I just find clothes look so much better with boobs. I’ve got stuff in my wardrobe that I don’t wear because I feel it just won’t sit right. Got a few tops and dresses that plunge abit that I can’t wear a bra for cos it will be noticeable but then I can’t not wear a bra cos the top will be so loose and gaping. I’m going to go ahead and book when I’ve saved a bit more. I just hope he’ll help out after the surgery.

My hubby was really against it. I mean REALLY against he. He said we’d end up splitting up although I know my hubby is really insecure sometimes. I’ve also breastfed 2 children and have tits like spaniels ears and he’s finally agreed and he’s 110% on board. I think sometimes they worry if it will change the relationship. It’s a really big change xx

I’m guess I’m the lucky one I got mine for my birthday lol he’s been very supportive I’m sure once you girls are all healed your partners will love them x

Hey Amy-Belle! What made him change his mind about it? I’m happy for you that he has come round to the idea and is supportive about it all now.

Hey sherise, you are so lucky! Yeah I’m sure once once we have them it will be a different story… I hope.

@donnamarie hey donna, I am like sooo excited! 17 days i think!! Yours will come by so fast! I booked mine with like6 or 7 weeks to go! I’m sure he will! He is a very anxious person and worries about everything! Xxx

Yes, when I first wanted it doing he was point blank refusing to be on board. Now, after breastfeeding, he’s a lot more happier with the idea. I agree with above, it’s his insecurities! X

Men can be very funny about the unknown as we all know. I’ve been with my partner 3 years- the first time he’d seen my before boobs was when the surgeon was drawing on me! He knew how much it meant to me and he supported me. Don’t get me wrong, he had the odd moment of saying he didn’t think I needed it and that it would get me more attention. But he always stuck with the fact he was happy with whatever I was happy with. I’m 23DPO and everyday since my op he’s told me how happy he is that I’m happy. It’s really nice to hear! I’m so much more confident with him and within myself (which was all I wanted). Plus now he says he’s never seen so much boob in his life because I’m constantly telling him to examine the changes! Haha. They’ll come round- just remember the reasons why you’re doing it! X

Actually really comforting reading this as my boyfriend of 3 years was 100% behind me and wanted me to do it for myself even though he didn’t think i needed it, i think that its just a man thing and threatens them a bit. Now he’s really happy for me and thinks they look brilliant, although still worries!!!

Been with my parter 2kids 6 years he hates the fact that men will be looking i said its my body my choice il be old one day and im not gonna regret it becuz u dont want it ‘ ive had your kids so atleasy desrve to make myself happy there not for u or anyone else im insexcure he knows that finally agreed to it took years what has the bloke got to say u cant ! And if he says fine il leave u say ok carry on u control freak trust me all this works ????

@demi ????????????????couldn’t of said that better myself my when I told my bf he said well il go get a cock exstension then I said good go on then ????????????he soon shut up at the end of the day bf cone and go boobs are forever x

@demi don’t know why the question marks come up it was suppose to be lol emojis ????

Hey Laura Jane,
This must be so tough. It’s such a big decision to make and to have to go through it without your partners full support must be really difficult. My advice would be (and I’m no expert) if you really want this then maybe it’s worth putting it off a little while longer whilst you figure out your differences. From the posts I’ve read on here it’s an absolute roller coaster of emotions getting them done, and that is going to be so much more difficult to deal with if you don’t have his full support. Obviously I don’t know anything other than what you’ve put on here but just trying to be really logical about the situation. I’m sure after lots of talking you’ll get him on board.
Good Luck
Kelly x

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