Feeling very confused, help please :(

So I’ve been going back and forth trying to make a decision on whether to get my boobs done or not. I hate them so much as they are now but my boyfriend thinks therapy would help. Has anyone went down the route of therapy for self esteem or whatever instead of getting a boob job and did it work? All this boob stuff is driving me mad I swear! X

I’m exactly the same my partner of 9years loves my boobs but is supporting my decision as he knows it for me and my confidence I’m 24 and been wanting it and researching this since I was 16 so it’s not a quick decision I’ve not been down the therapy route as I know they can not change my mind my heart and head are set on having it done so I am. Maybe try therapy but go for consultation aswell as you might be like me where knowone and nothing is going to change your mind about it xx

I’ve had two consultations this year but a few years ago I had consultations but I couldn’t afford it. I’m going to try therapy but I think I’ll probably need my boobs doing as I don’t know how My mind can be changed that much x

I don’t think it would to be fair it definitely wouldn’t change mine at least if you get them done you will be happier and comfier in your own skin xx

I wanted larger boobs from around age 14, I always thought they would eventually grow but by age 23 they hadn’t grown much. My mother is naturally a 32G/H and I always felt tormented that I couldn’t fill things out without a padded bra.

I waited until I was 33 for my ba because I flipped while shopping last summer and felt I’d had enough. Ex bf had always said they like my boobs as they were but all the compliments in the world wouldnt help fill the gap between my boobs or fill out a dress.

The choice is yours to make and it’s your body. It’s so easy for someone to suggest therapy but the issue you have is physical . If you have therapy they will break down the issues you have and give you coping mechanisms to deal with anxiety and stress you may feel with your body which is great. As it’ll also help you to think more positively in the long run.

I wanted mine because I wanted to feel more womanly nothing a guy could tell me would make me feel better or worse. I have no issues with my body and I’m very confident in myself. My issue was constantly comparing my breasts to others even teenagers. I felt horrible knowing I could wear form fitting clothes but couldn’t fill out the bust. When I think of breasts I think they’re feminine and really sexy. The shape, the way they sit, I just love them. I loved the way I felt in a super serious push up double padded wonderbra on a night out or a date. But hated the way I felt when I took the bra off.

I went to an event last summer and wore a body without a bra as it would have shown. Throughout the event I was trying to cover my chest and felt really awkward. It had taken me a lot to even buy the body I saw other girls without bras in dresses and bodies some has even less boob than me and stood confidently.

I wanted to know their secret the funny thing is I was them like ten years ago in my early twenties. It was then I realised I’d lived with this issue for long enough and time I treated myself to a positive change.

At certain points in your life you just get on with it….mind over matter…and things bother you less… but if you have kids, waiting to get married, have lost tons of weight or gone through a major life change or just want a new look these are the times when u have to make a massive decision with what to do next.

My boobs would not grow anymore that’s a fact. I’m a confident person and lived with low volume boobs for over twenty years. The only thing that would sort my boobs out was surgery not diet or exercise.

It is a life changing decision and only you know when ur ready to take that leap of faith. When I had bloods taken at my pre op I asked the doctor ( I saw a nurse ans a Dr cos she couldn’t get my blood out I was so anxious and terrible with needles) what he thought about cosmetic surgery he said that it can be life changing and the best confidence boosters he’s seen were boob jobs and nose jobs. Thats made me think….if you had a problem with your nose would you go for therapy to boost your confidence? Is it seen as anything different or is it just a physical as ur breasts?

I’m not saying either is more important but as a woman your breasts go though many changes and I feel they define your sexuality and femininity. Since having my op I feel a weight has been lifted and I feel even happier when I’m naked and tons more confident. Im smiling so much more in general, my posture has straightened too and I’m excited about the future. I feel that it’s the best decision I’ve made recently despite the cost, pain and stress I know it was right for me. I just wish I had done it a decade earlier but I wasn’t in the right mindset for it nor financial position.

Remember nothing happens before its time also so don’t feel the need to rush a decision. I hope I’ve given you food for thought

Fxx

Thank you Fran, that all makes total sense. I feel like I should do it because I’ve spent so much time and effort researching it but at the same time I don’t want to rush into without exhausting other options.

In my mind I think I know I will probably get it done at some point, I could even do therapy at the same time. It’s all so confusing cos I think one thing and then I start thinking the total opposite! As long as I know having a boob job is an option for me I think that’ll put my mind at ease, but then again if I do decide to do it I don’t want to leave it too late and wish I’d done it sooner!

Ahhh man bloody boobs!! X

Ur welcome hun sorry for the essay! I can ramble on at times! Beware if you opt for therapy prior to the op or have anything on ur medical records that you received medicine for depression /anxiety or have a history of it they will ask to contact your GP.

This is to ensure that you are of sound mind when consenting for the operation to take place for Mya to cover themselves and for your protection also.

Depending on circumstances or evidence they receive Mya do have the right to cancel or postpone operations to a later date. I’m just letting you know as a few threads I’ve seen on here since last July addressed this. Each case was very different.

If I were you I would speak to a surgeon ans get a consultation to discuss what issues you have with your breasts and see what option they suggest. Try some sizers on and get a feel for how they could look if/when you go for it. That way if you prefer to go ahead with therapy for now you can always discuss that with the theapist and the feelings you had when you went for the consultation.. If you still felt anxious or concerned and address anything underlying feelings you have about surgery.

I’m pretty sure you have to be six months clear of any depression /anxiety medication and at least a year or less clear of therapy /counseling but I could be wrong! Hope that helps fx

I’ve had counselling and stuff in the past anyway so having therapy wouldn’t make a difference to that I don’t think.

I’ve already had two consultations, with a pc and with Mr Traynor, tried on the sizers discussed what cc etc I’d have 350cc HP overs, even looked at dates! But I had an appointment with a mental health nurse on Friday about something else and we got talking about my self esteem and what she said made sense so it made me question getting therapy and stuff. Up until Friday I was all clear in my head that I wanted them doing, was going to contact my pc and book the date!

Oh really? That might give me time to sort my head out then if that’s the case! Something to look into I guess, thanks again x

No worries hun sounds like u know what you want and just need time to talk things out. I’d let the pc know so they can advise you on what next.

I’m pretty sure if you see the surgeon and book a date thts 6 months past the date of your first consultation you have to see them again before the op or something due to the time limit. So ask them about this too. It’s another thing I read on the forum at the start of the year but the girl wasn’t told about this and it caused a few issues for her.

Hope that all helps you with your decision fxc

Yeah I will do that, won’t be too bad if I do decide to go ahead with it as I know what surgeon, size etc I’d have.

Thanks for your help, much appreciated 🙂 x

Exactly! Preparation is key tbh hun! You already know what your after and u have met ur surgeon so that’s great ur already prepared mentally and have made choices so less to worry or think about if you decide to go ahead

I booked in the summer to have them done in the winter as I know it takes a while for them to heal and drop plus I had a breast band for 4wks and covered up with lots of layers so I wasn’t overly hot just comfy. When summera here they’ll be in a better state, dropped and fluffed fully fingers crossed.

Really hope it goes well for you fxx

Yeah that’s it!

Ah yeah that’s a good idea, I bet having it done it the summer would be a nightmare! I’m sure they’ll be fine 🙂

Thank you very much, really appreciate your help! X

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