Friend requests

Ladies please do not send friend requests without any type of message xx I will not add you and neither will many of the other girls. I have no problem with adding friends but I would want some sort of contact with you first x sorry a lot of people add us post op girls on here send us requests don’t comment or anything we r not in the circus ladies xx they just want to look at our pics xx

People are just researching, its all exciting you must remeber that before you had the op. I think girlys probs get a lil carried away see similar stats and add without even realizing lol I know I do sometimes

I agreeee alexandra

When I first came on here I friend requested AND messaged a lot of girls……most did not accept andi i used to have a joke with my daughter that I had no ‘mates’ in the end I just started adding without messaging as I got fed up of typing out and being ignored…..after my op it was easy to be accepted as everyone then wanted to look at MY pics.I don’t think ladies want to look for any other reason than to have an idea of how they may look after their own op or to make comparisons to their post op results.I was so paranoid pre op that girls would think I was a percy man as I had no pre op or post op pics.I messages plenty who did not reply..maybe because they were fed up of answering questions so I decided to just add and hope for the best!xx

I think it’s just polite and courtesy to message or ask first. They are personal photos, it just feels rude when someone just adds with no contact. Also you receive a lot of requests when something is wrong…and while we are all worried and want to see, it makes that person feel worse.

Yes I do agree Nicole and I have answered every message each girl has sent and feel I have helped a lot of girls on here but found it a little soul destroying and embarassing after having my own messages disregarded pre op.you ladies have obviously helped others but there are many on here who don’t respond .I realise it’s personal choice as to whether someone replies but it still makes u feel a bit crap ….it’s like being rejected on a dating site ha ha….not that I have used a dating site….ahem xxx

Actually I can’t really comment as I haven’t put photos up myself so don’t know how it feels..this just occurred to me! I just think that there’s no bad intention especially when girls are in excitement/panic mode so don’t stop to think how it may be interpreted , I guess it’s not till you’re post-op that you’re in a situation where you have shared the experience so know how it feels and then can approach a little more sympathetically

Yes do agree I also was rejected (sob) despite sending messages…it is funny how post op all the requests make you feel subconscious and pre op like you are begging for friends….when really it’s much better to be looked over than over looked! Ha ha love that Mae West line…especially as u get older:-)

Was agreeing with Julie but works with Ella too..

So let me get this right you would just add people on a dating site if they just sent you a request and no message or hadn’t even entered into a chat with you. I have no problem with people doing research or asking questions I do message back and try to give answers to questions as well x but what I do object to is people just adding so that they can look at your pictures and then they don’t even have the courtesy to saying anything afterwards x I wouldn’t except anyone on Facebook either if they sent me a friend request and I didn’t know them x

Yes Emma it would be nice if they commented as if they don’t it makes you paranoid they don’t look good.Having a cosmetic body change is an emotional roller coaster so all sorts of feelings are involved.all I can say is that without this site I would have got everything wrong and may not be in the position I’m in now having the breasts I always dreamed of.i don’t feel the pc gives you all the info we get from each other on here.As for accepting a stranger on a dating site with no message…..depends how hot he was!!!only kidding :)xxx

Well I best ask the question then lol Julie and Ella can I add you please, xx

haha of course!…….but I’m rhinoplasty not BA after all that ha xx

You can add me hun.i was uplift and implants 345cc xxx

This is getting I beyond a joke, everyone is in the same boat. We were all new to this forum once and we’ve all had a nose and it has been very beneficial for all. We’re here to support each other xx

Well said.i was terrified when I joined.Felt like everyone knew each other and I almost logged off but since I have spoken to some lovely girls who have helped me loads but I can remember starting at least three forums which nobody replied to.It took me a while to find the confidence to start a thread or message someone xxx

Please can you ladies add me? I’ve had an uplift and 250 implants. i’ve posted a few times and would be very interested in comparing recovery times etc. 🙂 xx

To be honest this is a website set up so that people going threw the same thing can look at other peoples pics and ask questions etc about whats going to happen. If people have a problem with people just adding them then why are you on this sort of website? I dont see what people emailing first is gunna do to make you think their real and not fake? Fake people can email too lol. Everyone iv added is because they had the same profile or was experiencing something i was experiencing. This forum is to help other girls and show what youv had done so i dont see why it mattters if the person writes to you or not :/. Sorry for the essay lol x everyone should be happy that peopke wanna see their boobies. I know i wud be for the amount theyve cost me lol

Ha ha like I said I cant wait to show mine off.id come to work in a bikini if I could 😉 xxx

Suppose everyone is different, I look at it as if some random person added you on facebook twitter whatever you wouldn’t just accept, as you simply don’t know them and its the same with this website yes its been made for it but at the same time its common courtesy to send a message you wouldn’t walk up to someone and ask them, show me your tits and then look and walk off without saying anything you would introduce yourself first and explain what your getting etc and what you would like to know before they get there tits out for you lol. Iv been on this forum for over 3 years and iv seen a lot of horrible things happen to girls with people seeing there pics so I always ask for a message first etc because of that, and its also nice to get feedback on what that person thinks of them, I accepted about 16 friend requests one time and none of them messaged but I accepted to see if they would say anything and NONE wrote back to say anything about my boobs and I think its just rude , not saying all of you girls are like that but the majority are so it can get quite frustrating, and its just nice to talk to that person rather then feeling like your just a object. I can understand it must be frustrating when some girls some accept etc but you do have to understand we are human and we like nice comments about them etc xx

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This is very true…everyone is different …although I do feel walking up to someone in the street and asking to see their tits is vety different yo adding someone on a site dedicated to it….and if I stranger on fb added me I would be suspicious of their intentions whereas im fully aware of why im being added on here.For the record Rinx yours look bloody fantastic…im very jealous.Now youre going to get a load more requests wanting to see lol xxx

Definitely I think it’s how you are as a person whether you keep your guard up or down etc I’m quite laid back but at the same time I would like a message if I don’t il see if that person has been active on the forum if they have I will accept and brush it off hope that makes sense , and thank you Julie I really do love them now I don’t wish they were bigger atall anymore and same goes to you yours are amazing xxx

Mine went much smaller when the swelling went down but seem to have filled out again so im back to loving them!! Yaaay xxx

Thanks rinx that was exactly my point and yes yours do look fab xx as it’s a forum I am entitled to put my opinion on the forum I was just trying to get some of the newer ones to see it from a different angle and maybe they will also realise that some people won’t answer the friend requests either unless they add a message or have entered into a chat first x that will also stop them from getting upset for not being added xthere was someone on here last week who put on a problem and wanted advice then got inundated with friend requests for a nosey that’s not helping her at all xx she was very distressed xx yes we are all on here for the same reason to get advice etc x so then why don’t they just add a line saying hope you don’t mind then you would message back and have a chat xx

Well it’s simple rally just need to respect each other’s opinions and requests! I like a message first and say that on my profile…some girls are just happy with adds…so if you see a request for contact first respect that, if it’s not there then that girls probably happy just to be added….I suppose there is no right or wrong just need to respect each other’s wishes so to speak.
And to be quite honest I’ve not see one pair of bad boobs ! And considering I was so sub conscious before I can’t believe that I have effectively got my tits out for more than 200 people lol!

Really not rally aaah

To be honest I have messaged some and not messaged others.. But I certainly haven’t commented on people’s pictures. I’m not the kind of person to come on and comment ‘nice tits’ on someone’s pictures.. I also personally wouldn’t want people to comment on mine. My BA is for me, and no one else..

I kinda agree with Lauren. If you post threads announcing that you have posted new pictures (which is fine, I probably will too once I’ve had my BA) then you should expect people to just add you. New people come and and go on these forums and not all of them realise that you should message first. Who cares, just decline if you haven’t seen a message or they don’t seem active. Even though I haven’t got any pictures up yet I’ve had some random adds and if they haven’t posted anything before I decline x

No one is asking to comment on pictures saying nice tits LOL but it’s nice to have feedback like me saying to Julie her boobs are amazing and are looking really good, it’s just that positive feedback from others that makes you feel confident if your feeling low about them etc , like I said before everyone is different and if someone has put next to there picture / name please message before adding you should respect that.

I can see lots of different points and completely understand from all angles but I do agree with Lauren swell as this has helped me so much and admittedly I have actually found piece of mind looking at people’s boobs as they can look so different give you ideas healing change over time days/weeks of what you like, also I have thanked all the people in a recent that you post to show my appreciation as I didn’t want girls to feel I was just being nosy it is quite upsetting when people don’t comment to help or when your friend request get declined and ESP when you have messages them first!

Totally agree with Rinx….it makes u feel so much more confident about your surgery when people make a nice comment xx

Definitely agree about the comments with Rynx, its nice to have that reassurance when you are unsure! Not jist a lads approval or someone who knows you. Or if you’re worried about something, there are a lot of girls more experienced or further down the healing line to help. @Rynx- reassured me a lot!! Thank you! Xxxx

I understand but this issue has been bought up a fair few times. I remember being new and not knowing what was going on. People can message or not message just like people can accept or decline. I could be wrong but I’m pretty sure that 90% of the people sending requests (including myself) are seeking reassurance. I don’t like that fact that everyone seems to think the worse of people. None if us know each other like fb but we are all going through one hell of a journey together and that’s what this forum is about xx

That’s ok aprile xx, it must be so daunting being new on here I can remember when I joined, it’s just one of them subjects that not everyone agrees on haha but I just think if someone has asked for a message it’s polite to give that and not complain because they asked for that and then the same goes for us. Who have been on here longer we should rmake the effect to reply etc , I wouldn’t want anyone to feel left out but for me I definitely like that message to talk to that person and give them information xxx

Has anyone had a good boob day today ! ! ! 🙂

Effort **

I think we should all go for tea 🙂 ha ha xxx

You making then Julie mines white with one! 🙂

Im really grateful that girlies have added or accepted me as it has helped loads I feel miles better seeing peoples results that have had smaller implants as I was starting to get really down that I wasn’t aloud to have bigger implants I hope when im done I will be helping people too x

@rose i was the same for a bit! I saw ppl who had a smaller bust who was offered bigger implants! But im glad there not any bigger! I dont think i could handle bigger ones just yet anyway ha. I wonder weather i should have gone smaller.. And my scars might have been neater :s sone girls scars look perfect and barely there! Everyone is different and all about proportions etc.. And if you do want huuuuge boobies do it gradually 🙂 xxxx

this is site is just so helpful and nice how people who don’t know each other help with never meeting.. I do think a picture with a written sign saying your name and mya forum would help make people feel better as it is the unknown there could be kids or perverts posing to be people wanting to see pics get advise ect x

Iv never seen anyhing bad happen to anyone on here with their pictures bit i think some of the other girls have who have been on here longer. Iv only been on here since maybe before oct last year.. Im quite trusting though and didnt even think that someone would go through so much effort to see recovering boobs!! Xx

never know would be no harm in posting a pic with name ect if people are genuine xx

Yeah i dont tend to accept if there is no pic or much activity and their profile is just a list of adding! Lol I dont mind if i dont get a message though, its nicer of course or if you’ve spoken in a thread. 🙂 xxx

Yes ladies xx the other day there was a post from a lady who said that their r random people on our forum posting as women who are men who just want to look at your pics she has been on here for a long time and advised on contacting etc before adding xx I have got to say the amount of negative comments on this forum I started has been very hurtful but never mind because I’m an old woman it doesn’t matter x I thought that a lot of the ladies on here would have been like me with really negative views on their body for such a long time and would have been careful on who they shared with xx I have tried to delete this forum but I can’t x

personally the only reason I don’t email people first is because it takes ages to email someone on my fone or half the time it says email error!. I don’t think its the same as facebook at all because people on fb simply add you for no reason. whereas this is a website specifically about cosmetic surgery so 90% of the reasons for an add is because someone wants to see your results/ what certain problems look like/ compare and check out what sizes look like. I don’t see what can go wrong if someone adds you “just to see what your results look like” its not like their hurting you ? unless your extremely sensitive about the fact that someone would want to look at your surgery results and not even have a lil chat before hand. odds are you are never ever going to see these people and they are never going to see you so I cant see what the worst is that can happen. I understand its common courtesy but fair enough if it was someone in the street or someone you were going to see or meet in your life time but this is just a website and nobodies gunna go shouting around about your boobs after they’ve seen pictures.

I think what you need to remember too is that pre-op none of us ladies want to share pics, we don’t like whatever part of our bodies we’re having surgery on so why would we wan’t everyone looking at it? I know I don’t particularly like the idea of flashing my flat chest! Post op though, we’re all gonna want to show them off! I can understand how people might feel wary about adding people with few pictures, but the whole idea of this forum is to help and support each other 🙂 xxx

Emma don’t delete this thread! You are perfectly within your rights to feel this way as I do the same…but I also understand why some people don’t so I think it’s goes back to respect what that person wants…

If they have ask for a message first respect that oe expect to be rejected and if they haven’t it’s fair game!

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