wnat BA with MYA but boyf doesnt want Male surgeon

i live in london and the only female surgeon i can get with MYA is in Leeds.
i dont want to go all the way to Leeds and he does not want me to go with a male surgeon even though they have seen and touched thousands of breasts he does not want mine to be one of them 🙁
he gets upset when i tell him i want it in Highgate and now he’s even looking to go into Harley Medical or Transform.
what shall i do i really need this surgery as i have assymetric breasts, i want it done before we get married so i can go confidently on honeymoon once i have recovered 🙁
i cant get reviews for surgeons etc from the other companys as i have had with MYA as they have a forum and live chat etc.

my bf was like that wen i told him about having a ba and when i had to have a male presant in the room for my birth.stupid arnt they lol.but seriosly theres only 3 options. 1- you look around at other places. 2-you llok at going to leeds, btbh its far away and you wont want to travel post op in pain for ages.3-you explain to him that most of the worlds best surgeons are men and that tho he may see youre breasts in a sexual way surgeons dont and its just a job to them.i know wot its like bein unhappy with ure boobs and all i can say is do wot makes you happy and and have ure surgery wear u want coz its ur body.hope this sorta helps .also congrats on the wedding x

i think your bf needs sitting down and talking too, you are not going to get through life not seeing a male dr, eg:during childbirth (most dr s are male), does this mean you can never go topless on the beach!!!!!! i had mine done with mr traynor and he had total respect for my body, and has suited my surgery to my own needs not just another slab on the table!!!!! if he is that jealous now what he going to be like when u look even better in your bikini on your honeymoon. just have them done and take a close family member with you

he’s okay with me wearing revealing clothes its the touching part he does not like lol
he’s really immature, i told him about how male DRs are better and wouldn’t he want me to get the best but he’s like women are as good too.
i’m thinking of taking him to one of the consultations so he can see why i want to go with MYA.i will have another chat with him :confused:
thank you for the comments! 🙂

totaly agree with karen.think she put it 10 times better than me.

Hi
My husband said he needs to grow up! Lol. At the end of the day he is doing a job that he does many times a day! Not there to touch you up or look at you in a sexual manor. He is a professional. I would definitely have another chat with him. You need to do what is best for you!

Claire x

HI
i realy think you should go with who ever suiets you, this is surgery your talking about and i think he should be spending more time helping you get the best surgon weather its male or female. I had Mr Traynor and he was fab , surgons see that meny boobs i bet they are sick of looking at them .as this is your body and your are going through all the stress of ba i dont think he should have a say on what sergon does it .congratulations on your weddingxx

hi hun, I think what you said about taking him along to the consultation is a really good idea, he’s probably got allsorts going through his mind but once he see’s how professional the surgeon is and how clinical and ‘non-sexual’ it all is, I think he will see sense and probably feel a bit silly for over-reacting.

Rio x

Dutty09 you are right he does need to grow up, we made an appointment with Transform for the 21st so lets see how that goes.
and i will call my PC Nadja frm MYA and ask to be seen again with my boyfriend.
i just need to make him see things from my point of view.

Hi Dinky,

I don’t mean to sound like I am prying when I say this to you, but who is paying? If he is paying, then obviously will be harder. But if you are funding this by your own means, then to be fair, it’s not up to him. At the end of the day. Despite what he may say it is YOUR body and you will do with it as you please! If that means a male surgeon, then so be it. I had Dr Chantasarak to do my tummy tuck and they had my bits exposed, but I was not worried and nor was my husband. I don’t understand why your partner feels this way!

Claire x

Hi dinkydoo,
I think that if you have him there for the consultation (when you have to have your top off in front of the surgeon) and then again when you are in the hospital having the surgeon draw on you then he will feel alot better about it. I mean its not like they ‘touch you’ that much anyways. The only contact Mr Traynor had with me (whilst i was awake) was to show me where the incisions would be and then the pen touched my skin…thats it! It sounds to me that this might not be the problem, as i can’t believe that someone could be that insecure. Maybe your bf is a bit frightened at the thought of the operation, anything going wrong, or it changing you. Being there in your consultations will put him more at ease and make him feel more involved in it. ( It was probably something similar when you gave birth!) good luck at transform, but i seriously recommend going with the place that makes YOU comfortable at the end of the day.xx

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