Just need to moan!

Today is day 3 post op! I am feeling so down I knew the pain would be bad but my partner isn’t being supportive at all. He booked the week off work to help look after our 2 year old but he has barley helped. Yes he has lifted him in and out of his cot and changed his nappies but thats it. He left me on my own with him all day yesterday and he has just been on his phone most the day today so I am not getting chance to properly relax. He keeps asking me why I look so iserable and when I try to explain to him the pain I am in he just dismisses it. I know I chose to do this so I can’t exepct sympathy but he should be helping more with our child! It is getting me down that I can’t just relax and try and recover!
I just needed to rant about it as I know the only advice I can get is to talk to him but thats not working! I even considered booking myself into a hotel room tomorrow and just soend the whole day there alone!!

Don’t worry hun you’re not the only one who’s partner isn’t being very supportive, my other half isn’t even coming with me on my op day it will be my friend and he’s happy he doesn’t have to come! He wants me to get my boobs done as men do but isn’t bothered about the whole process. Just don’t stress and don’t do anything that could prevent healing properly. If you don’t do it I’m sure he will do it, might just take longer than if you were to do it xx

@becky234 Hun I totally understand. My partner took the day of my op off to pick me up. I went on my own. He had our daughter. He went back to work the next day. I had help from his mum the day after and a bit the day after but that was it. I’ve struggled. He only helped me when I was almost in tears with pain. I haven’t rested like I should. The house is a shit tip as he’s done nothing. I’m still struggling. Only 2 weeks post op. I’ve been washing clothes, tidying, feeding baby, putting her to bed. I’ve not hoovered but think I’m going to have to as it’s been 2 weeks and he’s not bothered! Sorry, rant over! xx

??? don’t blame u for the rant hun. I don’t think people fully understand what a big deal this is and how important it is that u rest and recover properly. I mean we’ve had quite a major op really – it has s huge impact on us not only physically but emotionally and u need the support at home! I wasn’t prepared for the emotional feelings I had PO! Chat to your partner and tell him exactly how u feel and what u need. Hope he steps up. Xx

Thanks for the replies girls! Its good to come on here because at least everyone knows what you are going through!
I’m starting to get soooo bored of not being able to do anything! Can’t wait till I feel normal again!

thankfully i have had a lot of support from my boyfriend, mostly because we have a needy dalmatian who needs walking 2/3 times a day and he whines if he doesn’t get it! haha but don’t feel like just because you chose to have this op you should be up and doing normal stuff, it’s an op to help you feel better about yourself and increase your confidence! your boyfriend should be supporting you, hope things get better soon for you ladies! you’ll be surprised how quickly you can feel more human! ☺️ ps men don’t seem to know how to use a hoover as for 2 weeks my boyfriend didn’t plug ours in once and there was dog hair EVERYWHERE!! so i feel your pain there! xx

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