Mothers

Is anyone else’s mam making a massive song and dance about getting this operation?! Or is it just mine! She’s put a negative point on every single little thing and putting me down about my choice which is making me worried and double think my decision. She’s asking why havnt I tried other companies more, do I know the risks, that I WILL get stretch marks , I won’t be able to drive, I could get am infection, I COULD die on the operating table. She’s asking me to postpone it till the end of the year which is really annoying me as I don’t see that she’s supporting me in the slightest. I really don’t want her to come to the consultation because she’ll be asking so many questions about EVERYTHING! She’s so over dramatic and I know she’s being a mam but it’s making me so annoyed and upset!

Is anyone else in the same boat? My dads been fine about it! 🙁 xxxx

Not in the same boat as such as but its taken me 9 years to get my partner to even agree, let alone help with the money. He said everything to put me off but in the end ive won!! Haha, All I can say is that its your decision and your body, and remind your mum it really is a straight forward proceedure and youll be in good hands. If it comes to it just go to your consultations with someone else as you dont need pressure from all angles just support 🙂 xx

Ok sot he mum thing. My mum is exactly the same. Shes supported me for years talking aboutit – now im doing it shes completely against it!! What you need to remember is you are an adult and its your choice, she is only being a mum, protecting her baby, and she wont want to see you in pain. I think mums think we dont think about the future, and how it will be in 10 years time. My mums keeps asking questions, when i get an answer she finds something negative!! I really wouldnt worry, once youre booked in etc she will come round. She wont disown you just for putting some implants in your boobs!
Try to talk about why she is so against it. Reassure her you have looked at the risks but its one your willing to take. Show her the forum! How many happy girls there are on here. 🙂
Hope this helps xx

Thanks girls! I just know she’s worrying about everything but it’s making me worried and I told her it’s meant to be an excitig time for me! She said it’s not gonna make me happy when I get it done but she doesn’t know how much I lack in confidence! She’s totally over thinking everything and it’s making me upset! I was so excited about it and now I’m totally not! My friends are being supportive which really helps but you always want your mam there! Xxxxx

I took my mum with me and it helped loads, she asked any questions and my PC was really helpful and it sortof made my mum change her mind about the operation! X

I have exactly the same Sarah! My mum has natural F boobs so she clearly doesn’t understand!! haha.. she was completely against it and she wouldn’t even talk about it and she would never agree with what I’m doing but as soon as i told her i’d booked it, she asked if she could come with me to the hospital and she’s looking after me for the whole week afterwards! I think once they know you want it that bad they will come around xx

If my.mom was unsupportive id do it still anyway, because its not for her, for u, your a big girl and can use ur own mind! My mom however was supportive my nan actually brought mw mine!!! My nan!!! Lol, but my.mom didn’t attend as we found out my dad got bowel cancer, so she was with him, and even then still didn’t tell me to postbone as what else can i do?

i have not got one single stretchmark, in 5 days post op, it is nerve racking and it is sore afterwards,my main concern is that i still struggle to do anything make a bed button my trousers, etc…but in so so pleased ive done it.

go for it if it makes u happy. Xxx

my mum was the same, although she came with me to my first consultation I didn’t let her come in as shes over dramatic about everything I know if she was in the room when the surgeon said I might get an infection she would of had a breakdown lol, for me it was actually easier to go by myself and have no support although its such an emotional process and you want the love and support sometimes that’s just not going to happen and mothers/partners even friends being rude and not approving of it can make the whole situation worse and make you feel more down about getting them done and scared so I just didn’t tell them anything about it didn’t talk about it! my boyfriend didn’t agree with it but he came with me on the surgery day as soon as I was out they were up my arse looking after me etc, they soon changed their mind lol x x x

Same! My mam has big boobs anyways! She’s just wary of ops but I keep saying like loads of girls get this everyday! It’s gonna make me confident and everything but she’s just thinking of the negative points! She’ll be there for me for the op and stuff but she doesn’t have to tell me her negative points all the time cos it makes me worried and I’ve went over the pros and cons in my head already! Never gonna please everyone a might as well please my self! Xxxxx

Thanks @rinx ! I know a didn’t want her to come with is today to meet him again but it’ll make her more relaxed (I hope!) am gonna do it anyways so she just needs to get around that fact! It’s hard for her not to be excited for me! My friends are and they cant wait to see the final result which is making me happy! I’m also worried about choosing the right size! I know as soon as I get the op I’ll be sooo happy and be wanting to show them off everywhere! You girls are getting me excited again 🙂 xxxxx

I’ve just added you rinx hope you don’t mind! X

Once its done its done I say, stay excited girl!! 🙂

My mum is a massaive H cup but she used to take the piss out of my flat chest (we no longer speak after years of her being a complete bitch tbh) now ive got 3 girls of my own but when theyre older I will totally understand if they wanted to change something about themselves, ive been through it so I can relate, but dont forget our parents are from a different generation to us, where you were born with what God gave you….bla blah. When its done you wont care about other ppls opinions, youll just be over the moon!! Xxx

I am so glad so many of you are in the same boat…… My mum said you have better things to spend your money on, it is a risk not worth taking, why are you doing this, do you know what you are doing. She has big boobs how could she possibly understand how I feel. I have booked everything and paid and just waiting. Wish my mum would support me but it won’t happen.

hey that’s fine il accept now! at the end of the day youre doing this for yourself no one else, if they cant accept it let them be bitter once its done they will see be around you wanting to look after you x x x

Speaking as a mother myself-she’s just worried her “baby” is having a major op! Obviously she thinks you’re perfect as you are. Its just mums hun, honestly 🙂 try to talk to her about your surgeon and his work, show her pics and stories. My mum is the same and I get it completely because if my “baby” was to have this op id be freakin out too 😉 xxx

mums are just mums. I tried to tell my mum but she was nearly in tears and was asking me to think about it for another 2 years and promising that they will change (yeah, that upset me. we all know boobs dont get bigger and perkier at 30 ) so I promised to “think” about it. but went behind her back and booked my op. im now 10 days post op and she still doesnt know. I can get away with that cause she lives abroad, but she will be visiting us for easter and thats when she will find out:)))) im sure I wouldnt want my daughter to have an op, so I hope she get my husbands side, cause his sistera and mum have boobs, but me and my sister dont 🙁 saying that my daughter is only 2 by the time she is old enough to have the op it would probably be so advanced with no risks at all 🙂 and ill be due to have mine redone, maybe we can get a discount :))) here is me dreaming now :))) haaa

Not so much my mother but my father! Ahhh I haven’t even told him hahahah he’p goes Australia In feb for 2months and my consultation next week asking for a late space hoepfully down whilst he’s away hahah surprise!!! Anyway it is your decision at the end of the day and you have to do what makes your HAPPY!!! Xxxxx

Just came back from consultation and to be honest my mam was done she just said she was nervous but my PC Julie was lovely and said she would be fine! I had originally had my mind set on 520cc but dr traynor said e was surprised a even went for them as they would look big on my frame, he said I have to think like I have these for life and stuff and he kind of put it all in prospective for me, I tried them back in and I totally agreed the 520s would look too big on my small frame! As soon as I tried in the 480s and 450 in my bigger breast Julie and my mam both said they looked really good and showed off my figure fab and I felt a lot comfier and happier! So I’ve settled for 480 in my smaller boob and 450 in my bigger boob! Naturelle implants booked in for the 4th March! X

Just came back from consultation and to be honest my mam was fine she just said she was nervous but my PC Julie was lovely and said she would be fine! I had originally had my mind set on 520cc but dr traynor said e was surprised a even went for them as they would look big on my frame, he said I have to think like I have these for life and stuff and he kind of put it all in prospective for me, I tried them back in and I totally agreed the 520s would look too big on my small frame! As soon as I tried in the 480s and 450 in my bigger breast Julie and my mam both said they looked really good and showed off my figure fab and I felt a lot comfier and happier! So I’ve settled for 480 in my smaller boob and 450 in my bigger boob! Naturelle implants booked in for the 4th March! X

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