mummies who have had BA

hi ladies im after some help, im a mummy and im dying for a ba, but i am really worried about recovery, i dont have any family to help, and have a 3month old and 2year old, i am thinking of waiting until my little one is 9months (as she was 3months early and still in and out the hospital), and my husband will book two weeks off work where i wont do anything at all, do you think ill be ok on my own with them for the third week? i would try to avoid lifting them as much as possible. be great to hear off someone whos had the op. Just want to know how u cope? Thamk in advance x

Hello Hun I have a two year old and I had to have child care for first two days when I got her back I couldn’t pick her up for about a week I’m 12 days post op now and can pick her up with only little pain. If you haven’t got child care I would wait till there a little older? Xx

Hi. I think you will definately need help for 2 weeks, for the younger one if anything. I have a 2 1/2 yr old and he was easy, he is in a bed, can climb in/out car seat with supervision is potty trained and understood I was sore so was more careful. But my younger one was 11months and whilst she was walking, I couldn’t have lifted her in/out cot, highchair, cuddles etc. I had help for just under 2 weeks and even after I could fill the strain on any lifting, driving and changing nappies!! And she didn’t understand when I looked scared as she came charging towards me!
It is hard, and at times very guilt ridden but I think u have thought it through well and your plan sounds like a good and doable one!

Thanks ladies! My husband will DEFINITELY do everything for the first two weeks, was just worried about week 3. Am definitely going to do it after Xmas as well get them alittle more independent. Thanks x

Hi Alice, I’m in the same position as u, I have 6 month old twins and have booked my surgery for 20 Dec when my hubby is off work for 2 weeks to do everything! I still feel so guilty and wonder if I’m doing the right thing but it seems everyone heals differently and u just don’t know how u will b! I’m hoping I will b ok… Just taking the plunge and deal with it at the time! Cxx

Hey my little one was 3 and half months when I had my op. I had help for the first three days then after that was doing everything as normal, lifting etc. I was really worried beforehand too as my partner couldn’t take any time off whatsoever, but all was ok for me xx

thanks ladies such a help. and 9months later, i am booked in for a BA, i have my date (7th august) hubby and me had 3weeks booked off, and now he can only get one week off arghhh!!!!! so totally stressed out now. little ones are 3 and 1 x

Hi @Alice. I’m 6 weeks post op and am a single parent of a 20 month old. I was reading so much on this forum and was actually petrified about the recovery and if I was being selfish etc but I can honestly say (I may of just been lucky) but after day 2 and after I stopped taking coedine I was perfectly fine. My mum was off for a week but unfortunately got a sickness bug a few days in so I had to manage. I just needed her to lift him in/out of his cot and obviously I wasn’t driving so that was fine. I could do everything else though. Lifting a full kettle was the other hard thing. I had overs so I may of been fortunate! Any questions please ask me 🙂 xx

thanks @aparren definitely helpful! my husband has 6days off now, so im planning on doing NOTHING for them, let him do all kid stuff, then hopefully i should recover quite quick, i sooo admire you doing it on your own! i cant cope when he works away never mind post op! haha! you defo sound like youve been lucky to not be in so much pain, hopefully im just as lucky (doubt it im a wuss!) did you buy a macom bra or a different one? x

Hi, I had my boobs done 8 weeks ago and I have a 6 month old and a 2 year old. My fiancé had 5 days off, I didn’t lift a finger at all for those first 5 days and then went to my nans for a few days just for help lifting my son. By day 10 I was absolutely fine, lifting my son and he’s a chunk and managing my toddler as well. I could have done it all myself sooner but I have anxiety and didn’t want to make it worse by doing to much and then worrying I’d hurt myself.
I may have been lucky but it really wasn’t as bad as I’d imagined. Good luck, you’ll be fine xx

thanks so much Nikki that is really helpful 🙂 x

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