The V-Pillows soften up the more it is used, I had a cushion and my two ordinary pillows underneath my V-Pillow to help keep me propped up, you get used to it lol. I had deep heat and heat pads for my back incase I needed them! Sleeping upright is to help the swelling go down and out your body, also keeps your boobs in position will they settle. Good luck for tomorrow! X