Please say I'm not alone!

So I know this is a bit of a rant but I just need to feel like othe people are going through the same thing.
I’m 3 days post op and I genuinely feel so alone. I have a 7 month old little boy that I can’t cuddle/feed or anything really due to pain and not being able to move a whole lot. My macom bra is cutting me in two due to being a size 16 dress and it’s just so uncomfortable. I have about 4 co-codamol left and have no idea what I’m going to use instead for help with the pain. I can’t sleep at night because I just can’t get comfy, my macom bra and strapping is that tight that it’s constantly making me feel sick as though I’ve been winded. But I’ve spoken to the nurse twice and she said it’s fine and she’ll see me Thursday! I smell so bad because I cant lift my arms up to wash and I can’t get myself out of bed never mind the bath even with help. I feel so down it’s unbelievable that I’m actually starting to regret getting this done but I suppose that’s part of the healing process. I think I’ve cried everyday since the surgery. I don’t know what to do ????

Have you got any family support whilst your healing? If you feel you need more cocodamol you can buy 8/500 over the counter but if you need the stronger dose 30/500 you will need to see your Gp for that to be prescribed. X

I do I have my partner and mam it just seems so much harder than I imagined. I think I’ll have to pick up some from the chemist as the muscle above my left breast is still so tender and cramps all the time xx

Hey hun sorry to hear your not in a good place! I stopped taking cocodemol after day two as it made me feel so unwell I took paracetamol instead two every few hours. I had shallow baths and wiped my armpits with wet wipes to keep them clean.

The pain will subside soon, listen to your body amd if u feel pain stop. U will be able to pick ur baby up soon. Just set ur alarms to take ur meds and eat lots of protein and fresh fruit and veg. I found pineapple juice helped with the swelling as it contains bromelian that stops swelling. I used ice packs under my arm pits and on my boobs to ease up the uncomfortableness.

It’ll all be over soon hun I found by day 5 I was ok or at least feeling tons better. Fx

Thank you Hun your advice means a lot. I just need to get out of the boobie blues xx

Hi Jasmine! Ah it will get better! My baby was 9 months old when I had my BA and I would say not being able to pick him up an cuddle him as I normally would was the hardest thing! I did have overs so I know the recovery can be easier, I was back doing everything for myself at 2 WPO. I do remember feeling rough that first week thinking how will I cope… but you will, keep taking the painkillers Hun and it will get better. I’m 6WPO now and feel so much better xx

Ur welcome hun it’ll get better trust me! To occupy urself have a look online for clothes u will be able to wear with ur new girls and bras. the time will fly by when u reach week 2 then not far to wk 4 and u won’t be in discomfort. Stay positive hun.

Aww that helps then. Take one day at a time and defo see what you can pick up from the pharmacy xx

I know how you feel, for me anyway it’s a really confusing dilemma because I’m over the moon to have had this surgery finally and it was all my choice so it doesn’t feel right to be complaining but the recovery is a lot tougher than I think anyone would expect or I expected anyway.. I’ve felt really isolated and frustrated and restless not being able to do anything I think it’s just important to focus at the light at the end, this suffering is only temporary and with a great result you will come out of it with so much so you know it isn’t just for nothing.. that’s the important thing to try and remember I think xxxxx

Thankyou girls it means a lot really. It’s just so hard watching everyone care for my son and all i can think is ‘I’m his mam I should be doing that’. And exactly @HannaStewert that is exactly how I feel! I’ve cried so much these past 4 days and I just feel so stupid like I don’t have a right to get upset or complain because i chose to have this done. I just can’t wait till I can do everything for myself again and be able to cuddle my parter, mam and son I just feel like I’m in some sort of bubble. But thankyou, you all are so lovely xx

Your not alone Hun I booked my surgery thinking my 10 month old would be pulling himself up to me and climing but boy was I wrong I’m going to struggle . Don’t feel bad lovely it’s ok to put yourself first for once us mums give our all to the little ones you will be back to normal in couple weeks it will fly and your baby won’t remember mum being down for a bit!!

It’s so stupid but I’m always terrified incase he doesn’t remember me full stop. Because I can play with him, feed him, change him ext all I can do is stroke his head and try to calm him when he cries by making stupid sounds and talking to him. I just wanna give him such a big hug and not let go until he’s 18 and screaming ‘ewww’ xx

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