So unhappy! Started by: Leanne

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  • Leanne 4
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    I am feeling more and more upset and low about my results. Now 3 months post op and they feel so small. They just feel flat. I don’t feel much different than before. There is improvement obviously because I had nothing before but I look just the same in clothes. I don’t have any nice shape and volume in the middle or top, I am so disappointed. I was worried about being too big because I’m so petite but maybe I was too cautious, but I also couldn’t really go any bigger because of my stupid tiny body. I am only happy wearing a Padded and push up bra, which I am conscious isn’t good for the implants so I try not to wear them often, so it means I feel low and unhappy all the time. I was so ill after the surgery that the thought of going through it all again is upsetting because I really don’t want to but there’s no other solution. I feel so inadequate and not good enough compared to everyone else. I thought this would make me happy and it hasn’t. i can’t stop feeling so low and upset. It’s laughable that no one would even know I’ve had anything done because I’m now only the size a lot of people start off with. I wanted to be natural but I have so much regret :'( better than nothing though I suppose.

    Leanne 4
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    I have an appointment with my surgeon next month but I know nothing can be done.

    Rachel 51
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    Have you looked at your before and after pictures?? What sizee.cc did you have?? I know most girls on here go through a stage of ‘boob greed’ so could this be your stage?? Xx Must be such a horrible feeling. I do hope your ok. Who was your surgeon hunny?? Xx

    Leanne 4
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    @rachel I have and there is a massive improvement which I have to be happy with but I am so much smaller than anyone else who gets it done. I am what people start off with now. I had 175cc because my body couldn’t take more. My surgeon was Linda and she was amazing and it is no criticism of her, I just expected to be happier. It’s nothing anyone can do :'( xx

    Leanne 4
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    I think it’s the profile rather than the cc, that’s why I feel so flat.

    Rachel 51
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    Oh hunny. Please dont beat yourself up. That is a small implant. I had 425cc on Tuesday and i would class myself as small build. What are your stats?? Go and see your surgeon and just express how you feel. Private message me if you wish. I do hope your ok though hunny xxxx

    Leanne 4
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    Well I’m just low because I’m not as good as everyone else and people don’t realise how lucky they are. I couldn’t physically take any bigger. Would’ve been a stretch having 200cc. Well I am about 2 cup sizes bigger but still so small compared to everyone else. I am seeing the surgeon in about 3 weeks. Nothing can be done, I’ll have to have reaugmentation in a years time, which I don’t want to do because I can’t go through the recovery I went through again. I can’t pay more. I’ll not be okay, I’m basically no better than when I started so I have to accept it. It just frustrates me that 99% of girls have no clue what having no boobs actually means and they are actually normal, as I’ve said, I’m the size a lot of girls start from. I’d only want to be slightly bigger. I want that shape in the middle and volume at the top. I just feel flat and ugly as always. Thanks for your messages xx

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    Hey, I know how easy it is to compare yourself to girls on here. I went through a stage where I was feeling really low because my boobs are smaller than a lot of people’s on here (I had 275cc and I couldn’t go any bigger than that). I was so down about them, but my mum and my boyfriend kept telling me if I’d have gone any bigger they would look fake, and I’ve realised that they’re right. I wanted them to look natural and not fake at all and they are just that and in proportion to my body. I’m sure yours look in proportion to your body if you have a really petite figure and if you went any bigger they probably wouldn’t look as natural. I know it’s easier said than done but please try not to compare yourself to the girls on here, as we all have completely different body shapes and sizes so what might look good on one person wouldn’t necessarily look good on another. Also there are loads of girls out there that only have small implants to go up one or two sizes, there just doesn’t seem to be many of them on here!! Please try to focus on the positive aspects of your figure too rather than beating yourself up about it, it sounds like you have a lovely slender figure which a lot of girls would be so envious of! I know it’s so hard when you feel so down about them, but I really hope this helps a little bit. Xx

    Leanne 4
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    Thank you so much for your kind message and is exactly what I needed to hear. Someone who understands. They do look natural and like I’ve been born with them, which I know is a good thing but I suppose I feel people would laugh as it doesn’t look like I’ve had a boob job. I don’t think I’d want them much bigger but I am disappointed with the shape. They are so flat and far apart in the middle. My boyfriend did say they’d look silly any bigger but I think he was just being nice because he knows I was worried and embarrassed how small they are. I am so jealous of these girls that don’t need to wear bras, I still need Padded and push up ones! I feel so upset at the thought of going through it all again. I know I shouldn’t compare myself but it’s just really upset me as a certain girl who works with my boyfriend has had hers done and looks amazing and has made her even more perfect than she was so why would he want me? I just generally feel unattractive anyway and thought getting this done would fix one major insecurity. Which it has in some ways, as I can now fill a bra and don’t have to pad it to an inch of its life and feel comfortable being naked. The profile used feels too flat, I loved them when I first had them done and they weren’t pushed down by a breast band. They were up and had a nice shape in the middle and top. Something I’ve never had and now I’m back to not having it. Sorry to go on. I really appreciate your message Serene, it has helped. Thank you xxx

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    I am sure he wants u because he loves u, it’s more than looks and boobs for men Yano! Women come in all different shapes and sizes, all me. Have preferences but what they all share in common is that they like personality most! So regardless of what size ur boobs are, he loves u for u and wouldn’t have u any other way I am sure….
    love what u have darling because believe me bigger isn’t nessisarily better and the majority of men when asked prefer the neutral look… sometimes we struggle to see our own worth… it’s a bad human trait. Listen to what ur bf is telling u he wouldn’t lie…. u r thinking negatively about ur own body and I am sure u r absolutely stunning in body and soul… I am not just saying that for ur benefit… speak with dr fiumara see what she says… she is very honest and doesn’t mince her words.. maybe treat urself to a spa day and enjoy getting those perfect pert boobies of urs pampered xxxxxxxx hope u feel better soon xxxxx

    Ayesha 13
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    Babes I wouldn’t worry about thing as these implants can take up to 12 months to settle inn now I’ve seen loads of girls over the last 3 years say the same thing and 6+ months post your body eases up off them and allows the implants to spring in to shape and fluff out now I take it you have under the muscle? Xx

    Ayesha 13
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    What ever they look like now believe me after 6 months time they will be different we can’t match our selfs up to the next girl we are all driffrent xx

    Leanne 4
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    @murph Thank you so much for your lovely message. I know, I feel so bad that I let my insecurities affect my relationship, he loved me before I had surgery and that’s truly special in my eyes. He’s amazing and I guess I’m just scared of losing him to someone more perfect and beautiful. i will speak to Linda and I know she’s great, I have no criticism of her whatsoever. I just hate being so petite that it’s restricted me being fully happy with my results. I really appreciate your message. Thank you xxx

    Leanne 4
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    @leigh78 Thanks Hun. I spoke to my patient coordinator today who said as I am 3 months it’s pretty much how they will be. Yes I had Under muscle. They are just so flat and no nice shape in the middle or top. I don’t think they’ll get better but I suppose I’ll either get used to them in a good way or a bad way and want them done again. I’ll have to wait and see, I just feel disappointed I’m not happy xx

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    Well I think is PC is wrong as it’s ages for your implants fluff out especially under your muscle I promise you add me and if your on FB I can prove this with so many girls that I know off they will be lovely xx

    Lau 39
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    How old r Leanne? I am 28 now and before my ba I was 32b from about the age of 25 (put some weight one)… I weighed 6 stone up until 21… lol…. then gradually got bigger and my boobs did 2…the pill can alter ur size too… lots of things do! Give it a year and see where u r! Honestly! Bodies change xx

    Leanne 4
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    @leigh78 Thank you, I just know they won’t push together and up though now, they’ve dropped and feel so far apart without a bra, the middle and top is so flat. People told me at 6 weeks to give it time and I just feel worse ;( I’m not on Facebook hun xx

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    @murph I am 25, I’m 5ft2 and weigh just under 8 stone and I am the size you started with, that’s why I feel so low, I’m not like everyone else. I’ve been on the pill since about 15 too. The only hope I have is they get bigger with pregnancy but I doubt that’ll happen anytime soon. May have to go through a reaugmentation ;( I don’t see another choice. As i want a better profile and shape. Thanks for your message xxx

    Lau 39
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    I have had a little girl which is why maybe mine got bigger although 32b isn’t big but I know where u r coming from! I bet u look amazing hun, grass is always greener lol….. xxxxxxxxx

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    I’m glad my message managed to help a little :). Your boyfriend loved you and found you beautiful before your surgery so he still will now! And honestly I don’t think he’s lying to make you feel better, men have a habit of being brutally honest and even insensitive at times so I think most of them don’t have the intelligence to lie like that! I know what it’s like to have insecurities (if I didn’t I would never of had surgery in the first place!), but please try to see yourself how he sees you – which I’m sure is an amazing and beautiful woman :). Being attractive isn’t just about “big boobs”, some of the worlds hottest women have smaller boobs. Mine aren’t as full on top as I would’ve liked them to be either, but then most natural boobs aren’t as full on top anyway so again it’s just a case of them looking really natural instead of fake. Whenever I have a down day about my boobs I just have to think that yes maybe I would have liked them a bit bigger but they’re SO much better than they were before (literally nothing!) and at least I do actually have boobs now. Definitely speak to your surgeon though about how unhappy you are with them and see what she says. Let us know how you get on too xxx

    Leanne 4
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    @serenevictoria Thank you for being so sweet and positive! I really appreciate it. It’s just made me insecure that my boyfriend is around stunning girls and now this one girl has had surgery and is a lot bigger than I am. I feel embarrassed and a failure that the surgery doesn’t really seem worth it. I know that it’s not all about big boobs, and I don’t want to be big, I’m just disappointed that I’m not happy as I thought I’d love them. I feel sad that I don’t have the same look as everyone else. I’m still tiny. At least you’re bigger than me. Sounds like you had the same stats as me before and you could achieve bigger. You’re right about natural boobs not being fuller at the top but it just makes them feel as flat as before. I don’t think it’s right that I’m only reasonably happy in push up bras. I do tell myself that it’s better than before, I am really grateful to have something there now but I just feel embarrassed they are still so small. Thank you so much for all your understanding and kind words. I’m seeing my surgeon on 17th. I worry I have to go through it all again! Xxx

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    Hi Leanne, really sorry to hear you are so unhappy with your results. I’m just wondering weather you would be able to show me some before and after’s to help me make my descision? I’m 28 and 5’3 8st 4lb and really petite on top and currently a really small A. I have my consultation booked on Tuesday and I really don’t want big boobs at all! I was thinking of really small implant like you have had to just hopefully take me to a nice natural B, don’t think I would like any bigger! After reading about your results I’m worried I would end up thinking what was the point in going through it all!! Hope you can help thanks Stacey xxx

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    Hi @leanne sorry to hear you’re disappointed…it’s very easy to get boob greed! I know how you feel haha I am happy with mine but looking on here I always wants bigger haha!
    I had 275cc mod plus unders with Linda and I also have a wide gap between my boobs….this is due to the natural space between our boobs…this will never change no matter what as they cannot put the implant somewhere that your boob doesn’t naturally sit…I don’t have a cleavage still and I never will unless I wear a push up bra but Linda did explain to me that it cannot be achieved.
    Add me as a friend if you like hun and we can have a chat whenever you need!!!
    I wasn’t thinking there was much of a difference for me but when I saw my before photos I had a shock at how much better and bigger they are now…it’s so easy to forget what they were like before!
    And the biggest bonus of all is that no matter the size…you’re gonna have perky boobs that don’t need a bra because they won’t move! 😀
    You wouldn’t want to look too fake.

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    @staceyriva Hi lovely. It’s such a hard decision to make! I don’t feel like what ever size you ‘try on’ you ever end up with those results. I don’t feel it’s necessarily the size that’s wrong but the profile. I had moderate plus profile which feels very flat. It sounds like you may have more tissue there in the first place than what I had so this would help yours be bigger anyway. I don’t have any before and after pics at the moment but might get them Thursday when I see my surgeon. Are you having unders? I don’t want you to be put off from what I’ve said. I think being too small is better than being too big. I’m just disappointed because I loved them at first and don’t like how they’ve dropped xx

    Leanne 4
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    @crazyjade27 You’re right, I don’t think comparing helps! I feel so small compared to everyone else generally though. I am more at ease that I have something there now, just not as happy as I thought I would be. It’s very true what you’ve said and I just have to accept what my body could take. I know I’m a lot bigger than before, but still small and flat but I am very natural which is what I wanted. Thanks for your message lovely xx

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    Yeah i think I will definatley need unders with me not having much tissue at all. Really scares me tho with it apparently being a lot more recovery, pain etc than overs!! That would be great if you could get some pictures as there doesn’t seem to be many girls that want implants but still only want small boobs! thank you lovely xxx

    Leanne 4
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    @staceyriva I had unders and didn’t find it painful at all. It’s longer recovery but I was expect

    Leanne 4
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    @staceyriva I had unders and didn’t find it painful at all. It’s longer recovery but I was expecting worse! I know it is rare to find girls who want small, natural looking boobs! Xxx

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    Hi Stacey,
    I am a small frame size 6 and 5″ 2, and started out with 30aa, I am 3 weeks post op, I had 275cc unders, the pain wasn’t as bad I thought, the first week is the worst. You can add me if you like and I will send you before and after pics.x

    stacey 4
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    Thank you Karen that’s great will add you now! Xx

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