Supportive parents?

Anyone had issues with parents?
Mainly my Mum has completely freaked out, tried to cancel appointments, had arguments. Even got to the point where she kicked me out!!
Op is booked for 1st March and I’m so so excited. The downfall is I’ve given up and not even told her its booked.

Anyone had similar issues?

Awww poor u!! Really hope she comes round 🙁 xx

Aww I hope she comes round too! Hope uve got someone to look after u after ur op hun, last thing u need is stress when ur trying to recover. Good luck xx

I don’t live at home anymore but I haven’t told my mum as she is very judgemental about anything ‘fake’, even shellac nails! I don’t know if I will ever tell her, and she prob wont guess cos I’m Bly having 300cc! Good luck Hun, this is for you and you deserve t x

i was worried about some family members finding out as there so judgmental but eventually they all took a chill pill and just let me get on with it once i explained to them how down i wa about my lack of boobs n once id shown them all the research id done.
now my bloody mother is competing with me has booked it for hers to be done and made sure hers are going to be bigger than mine :/.
ask u mum what her issues are and sit n explain to her y u want it done . don’t let her spoil ur big dy though Hunny. and please make sure u have someone to look after you first few days after at least x

hi, im in a similar situation, i dont live at home tho
my mum was supportive from the start and is coming to the op with me, but i never told my dad until the op was booked, im having my op in 3 days
he is soo against the idea of going under ‘unnecessary’ anesthetic
he said he doesn’t want anything to do with the op he wont come to the hospital or anything, but hes being ok with me actually getting on really well but if someone even mentions boobs he goes off on one
i think hes not been too bad because iv always said one day ill get my boobs done, and hes known for years that this day was coming, hes not happy about it but finally has come to terms with it, i sat down and talked to him why im getting my boobs done, and said im getting it done regardless of what you think, obviously ur perfect in ur parents eyes and they don’t want u to change ur self, but u should just tell her how u feel, has ur mum seen ur boobs recently? sounds stupid but maybe show her, me and my mum go swimming a lot together and she knows ill only wear a certain style of bikini which i feel comfy in due to my boobs, i think thats why shes been so supportive
hope you find a way to talk her round, and whatever u do DO NOT cancel ur op, even if she doesnt support u she’ll come round in the end, she cant fall out with u forvever?
if u dont get it done because of ur mum, ull end up being resentful towards her
hope this helped as ur not alone lol xxx

Always a tuff one telling family especially perents who see us as so beautiful already. Iv only just told my mum . Over the phone. Lol I explained my problems first then told her I’d been wearing special bras to hide my shame and hadn’t let my hustband just how up set I was at first . Then I told her straight iv booked it its in feb and I’m so excited .there was a lot of silence then she said if you ever need to talk anytime just call me 🙂 I was so releived ,I’m one of 7 children and have only told one sister . It is so hard and not everyone will agree with ur disision, no one on here will judge you . Give your mum time hope she comes around hunny .xxx

once my mum saw all the chicken fillets gell bras an even the trasvestite boobs i used to wear she relised how much i needed this for my self xxx

hey hun, when i had rhinoplasty my mum knew i was thinking about it and really desperately wanted it but had NO IDEA when the op date was etc because i was so worried shed find a way to cancel it! (she wouldn’t have but i just wasn’t taking any risks). For my BA ive only told my sister and even then i haven’t told her the date of the op for similar reasons! My advice would be to not take risks, get it done, and then tell your parents. You don’t want their comments to get in the way of your decision and you dont want their voice to be in your head when your waiting in the room about to go under! once its happened there’s nothing they can do. They can shout all the want, but you have your new boobies so itl be worth it :p

My mam really really didn’t want me to do it, but she knows when I want something I’m doing it, and she knew I’d do it with or without her so she came to the first PC meeting with me to make sure I asked all the right questions. After that she just accepted it and she’s the one who’s been looking after me during recovery, and she actually really likes them now they’re done! My dad wasn’t quite as accepting as her but he texts me every day to see how I’m doing recovery wise. Could have been a lot worse! So sorry to hear your problems 🙁

Thanks everyone, I do live on my own, however I live on the farm where we all work so even avoidance is hard. I will talk to her, but probably via text & the day before ;] Due to her past of trying to cancel it!!! I think thats what upset me the most and she still hasnt mentioned anything. If she’d have asked why, we could have dealt with all this by now. Instead she went behind my back, deceitful and really hurts! Being the only child I would have thought she could have spoken to me, being 22 I would have thought she’d trust me with my own decisions!!

I totally agree that I WILL NOT cancel it. My boyfriend has been really great with it all and hes actually the one taking me there and back. X

I was in the same situation. 22 with a baby partner and living on my own so thought my parents would appreciate my own decisions but they fell out with me and we had a massive arguement. My BA is Friday and my mum has come round and having a few days off with me, i cant talk to her openly about it but its a massive improvement

My mums the same she doesn’t want me to do it but she knows I will but I suppose mums will be mums worrying lol! Noone will ever really understand only yourself and people on here ! Good luck hope everything goes well ! xx

Hiya babe, read this and can totally relate to your story. Im only 20, and ive wanted this done since i was about 18, but my mom has completely put a stop to it until now. She told me if i was to get it done she would put a stop to my funds and not help me out at all (which is hard because im at uni and need all the help i can get off my parents). Ive kept talking about it to her, keeping her informed and stuff about what im thinking etc, and she’s come to a comprimise that i wait until i finish uni until i go ahead with the surgery. I know she is only concerned, and she will never be happy about it, but understands now that this is the right decision for me. Like other people have said, no’one will understand how much you want this done apart from yourself and the girls on here! If ever you need to chat then im always here as i completely understand what your going through and its not nice to not be supported by someone so close to you. I would suggest that you try keep her informed of your plans, and tell her this, so that she feels like your involving her if that makes sense?
Hope you get on okay babe and like i said before, if you ever need to chat then im here 🙂 Good luck xx

Hey,
Ive got the same problem with you. Im 18 and looking into liposuction. My mum just doesnt agree with it, she just ignores the subject or wont even talk about it. Ive ot even told her ive contacted mya. My boyfriend is supportive and he is coming to the concultation with me, mums always worry. But she needs to remember your an adult now, you have your own mind. And you have to make your own decisions, she cant mother you forever. In a mothers eyes you are perfect so they see it differently to you :/ maybe send her a text and try explain how you feel. Good luck! 🙂 xx

Hi Vicki I have had the same thing with my family, my mum is supportive but my dad hit the roof, my mum knows when I’m going in but my dad doesn’t, I think you should just tell someone from the family, so there’s not too big a shock when it’s done. Out of interest who is your doctor just because I have Dr Mounir and am going to Preston hospital wanting as much feedback as poss 🙂 xxx

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