unhappy family

Basically i went for my consultation on saturday with my pc,and felt positive. I have family who are against me having this done,sending me links about things to try put me of.its making me feel highly stressed as i know it would improve my self esteem loads.but its now making me worry about the possible and now im looking at it all as one big risk and im feeling abit deflated.im not stupid and i know theres risks but i didnt really want to think about them.has anybody been through something like this?or is everyone elses family being supportive!

You do wot you need to dot lovely it’s your life go for it is it just a straight BA ? As the op is pretty much straight forward and it’s like one n and out all day long you will be fine xx

my family were exactly the same! they were a pain in my arse ha! iv always wanted mine done n they know I have but they always said I didn’t need it done,n that something could go wrong to try n put me off. iv always worn loads of padding in my bra tho so they always thought I was bigger than what I was. I had to drag my mam to 1 of the consultations with me n when I took my bra off she actually got a shock at how small I was so then she started to understand! u need to do what’s right for urself and don’t let people put u off! I had mine done this morning and I’m over the moon Iv finally done it I already feel better myself already even tho the are swelled and not that good of a shape. but of u want it done that much go for it! good luck x

As long as you’re happy and comfortable then that’s all that matters… You would never leave the house if you read and believed every horror story out there.. As long as you know and understand potential risks then it’s your choice. As my mum tells me, everyone else can have an opinion but at the end of the day nobody knows how many years you have had to put up with the lack of confidence and hating your body… I know for one that it is not a pleasant experience. My mum and dad are supportive but I am not telling anyone else yet as they won’t be and I am not prepared to hear loads of negativity., Lol

Don’t feel deflated, no one should dampen your excitement for something that you have wanted for so long. You do what’s right for you xxx

Ignore them or better still don’t tell them lol in your case they already know all you can do is ignore them and if it’s something you really want nothing will change that. X

Yea i feel like i need to do whats best for me but without having family support makes me feel alone with it.luckily i have this forum lol.. im having my second consultation with my surgeon soon i need to make the appointment,im unsure if it will be just BA or if ill need an uplift.its not the actually surgery thats worrying them its if something goes wrong and i have to loose my breasts completely all the scary stuff lol theyre trying to scare me to no go ahead xxx thankyou for commenting ayesha x

Thankyou everyone for your messages 🙂 made me feel alot better xxx

Luckily most of my family are being supportive apart from one of my sisters and my auntie. But I couldnt care less my ba is about me andno1 else so as long as im happy thats all that matters to me.

I was in the exact same boat as you at first.. the only person who agreed with me was my sister because her boobs are so small too! I booked my consultation told them and a big argument happened! I told them I’m having it done no matter what and they can rather support me or not! I went on about family support and me never getting none, got really upset about it and sounds childish but ignored them for a few days haha! Mum then came back to me and said she’ll stand by me no matter what I doo.. My dad still doesn’t agree but Iv gone ahead and now everything’s booked! I actually got offered a date on my dad’s birthday in May but turned it down because he probs would of thought I did it on suppose hahaha! It’s booked for the week after and he’s kinda coming round to it as he has no choice.. Good look though xx

I went a head and my family still dont know and I had it done in dec go for it ! If thats what makes u happy

My then boyfriend was against me having them done. The lead up to my op was pretty stressful as he put a bit of pressure on me (controlling really!) anyway we split and he’s now devastated that I have fabulous boobs he’ll never get to touch ha!! You know what’s best for you and remember all the supportive people on here who know exactly how you feel Hun xx

My family don’t even know lol. I haven’t told any of them x

Michelle thats verry similar to me,my partner is exactly the same.filling my head with bad things that could happen.i have two children with him so its verry difficult. It could be an insecure thing with him i dont know. My family never really stand by my choices anyway. I need ba for my confidence as it effects me daily.i suppose i have to listen to myself and do whats best for me,but if something goes wrong with them ill just get the told you so malarky lol i wasnt going to tell anyone at first not even my partner but felt i needed the support which clearly has backfired haha.thanks for all the comments makes me realise that its my body and my descion 🙂 xx

Natalie my boyfriend was a horrible ass when I had mine done. He was horrible before my op and the morning after he called me telling me I looked ridiculous and all sorts and now? Now he’s obsessed with them lol xx

I am having mine done Sunday , the only people who know is my husband and my daughter !!!!

Sorry to hear about the lack of support from those closest to you. If you want this then go for it. Do you send them photos of people with anorexia when they go on diets? I doubt it. It’d be immature.
My mum didn’t get it at first, she wanted me to be happy with what I have and didn’t understand why I’d take the risks, so I started to go braless around her and it made her understand why I want it, she could see I have no boobs. So now she’s given me loads of her old shirts to wear post op.
My husband is worried that with new boobs and more confidence that I’ll leave him for someone else. He told me that when I was pregnant and my boobs were bigger he felt like he was cheating on me with a booby woman (which I then made a joke about because he’d never cheat, “You didn’t seem to mind cheating on me with my boobilicious twin!” Lol)- when I was pregnant my boobs went from nothing to huge. But he’d never be mean about it. I don’t think he wants me to feel bad about wanting boobs, he’s just scared of losing me.
Facing the risks with a strong mind is important though, it helps you if any risks happen, and if you can sit and talk to people about implants, risks and benefits – you might find they’ll be more understanding.
My surgeon has told me that if I knew any more about the procedure he’d offer me medical training! LOL I’d take him up on it, but I’m not sure I’m smart enough, it’d be good money though! 😀
Good luck xx

Men react that way for all sorts of reasons but I agree it’s mostly from insecurity! It’s the worst time for them to behave in such a way as you desperately want reassurance. It’s so difficult but just focus on the reasons why. I have never regretted my op for one moment, just wish I’d done it sooner, had a text off my ex before saying I looked amazing when I walked past him at work…had to stop myself from texting back ‘in your face!!’ Haha!! xx

Haha!!bet that was so hard to.not text back lol ill just go at it alone,he will come round at somepoint even if he dosent itll be worth me feeling alot better about myself 🙂 xxx

My family and boyfriend are exactly the same, so much that I was booked in and cancelled. A few months have passed now and I have come to the decision I need to do what’s best for me and my self esteem. I’m sure they are just looking out for us x

Aww bless you, i cancelled my second consultation because of it. Im sure they are 🙂 just hard to get them to understand isnt it but the decision is ours xx

Be empowered girls! Go for it! xx

A lot of it is just misconception on what it is. My other half thought it meant going for the Jordan look and for a look of girls it’s just about feeling like a woman. As I’m tiny he had images of me looking ridiculous or that it was to attract other men….what they don’t get is it is for you!

Go for it babe, my family are the same and i have 4 sisters who i know would love to have it done butreally slate me for doing ith, my dad was a little uset with me too and my friends are quite bitter about it all to so not really many ppl to talk about my expereance to. But i know that i made the right decision for myself and if the dont like it thats there prob not mine 🙂 u wont regret it xxx

I have decided I’m going to go through with it :)will tell them I’m deffo doing it When I have saved half up 🙂 one life to live and my descions.if they don’t like it then so be it.xxx

Thanks everyone for the support 🙂

Good for u babe 🙂

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