Winge needed!!! Why are my friends putting such a complete downer on this??

Need to unload. So for years and years i have been desperate to have my boobs done. Like this is my dream. Im a 32a that i don’t even fill out! I littreally have what looks like a moob and the other one is completely flat. When i had my consultation my surgeon said that the breast just hadn’t developed. This is something that has had a huge impact on my life!! I separated from my ex after he had a second affair. This all had a huge impact on my self esteem. My mum has saved up to have this dream become a reality. It was a surprise for me. And I’ve been really emotional and still in disbelief that this is actually happening.

when i told my friends that i was having my consultation they were really happy and supportive. But now that it’s actually happening they seem to be putting a downer on it. Saying things like i don’t like fake tits they are going 2 look ridiculous on you. So I’ve showed them the pics I’ve showed my surgeon and they can find fault with everyone of them. They even made a comment about maybe i should get my nose done instead. Bet you will be having your tits out all the time. Funny thing is I’m looking forward to being able to wear vest tops and not having 2 hide the fact that there is nothing there. I’m looking forward 2 taking my boys swimming!! And if i want 2 show some cleavege like them, i bloody well will. I’m only going 2 about a C cup. I just don’t understand why they are all a sudden are being so bitchy. I know i take things 2 heart, but i just wanted them to understand how huge this is for me.

Well that’s my life story… Just needed to bitch xx

Sounds like jealousy to me lovely! Do what makes you happy!
Xx

They’re probably just jealous. Us girls can be very insecure it’s just how different people deal with insecurities. My mate had her boobs gone 3 years ago and I’ll admit I was soooo jealous but I never put a downer on it or got bitchy. I said they’re awesome I hate you instead lol some people just deal with insecurities differently unfortunately. They should be supportive though and I’m sorry you have to deal with negativity at such an exciting time. Flaunt your new fabulous boobies in their face after you get them done;) hehe xxx

Hey bab,

Just ignore it! Half of it is probably jealousy but also they are probably worried and just looking out for you!

My friends are the same with “Hollie remember how tiny you are you’ll look stupid” but i know they’re trying to look out for me.

When you get more involved and it starts becoming real I’m sure they’ll be more supportive and be just excited as you are

Good luck bubs xxx

Awww just ignore them babes they sound jealous!! I know a couple of people who were like that with me too but they domt realise that fake boobs look so natural these days no one will even know they’re fake! Ando if they make you happier and more confident it’s 100% worth it! I’m so happy I got mine done it’s the best thing I’ve ever done! Xxx

My friends were exactly the same! I really don’t understand why. All I used to say was ‘it’s not your body so get over it’. If it’s what makes you happy then who cares what anyone else thinks!
They’ll be the first to compliment you when you have amazing boobs don’t worry x

Thanks ladies. I was feeling like i was on top of the moon and just come down with a bit of a bang. I suppose i was looking for some reasurance from them and in fact got the complete opposite. Just made me worried that after all of this I’m still going to have hideous boobs. Most of this is from my best friend of 16years, and i did snap at her a bit and said don’t worry your still gunna be the one with the big boobies. Some tears on the phone to my mum has made me feel alot better. She’s got me feeling more positive again, holiday 2 get booked, first bikini to buy, first time having a bra fitting!!

I think if my friends where like yours I would take it to heart too!! Bless you u poor thing it can’t be nice hear people close to you trying to put u down. I lost my mum at a young age so my mother in law has always been there for me like a mum for the past ten years. She’s always known I’ve wanted them done and when I got the ball rolling and booked my surgery she didn’t seem as supportive and I honestly feel it’s because she’s jealous being a older woman and thinks I’m going to flaunt them. I’m the same as u very small always have been but after having 2 children my full a cup has disappeared and now I literally only have nipples this has always effected the way I dress and I’m looking forward to a summer finally as I won’t feel like a boy and be too hot in jumpers. Bet u can’t wait to have them done and don’t let any1 make u feel wrong for doing what makes you happy. This forum has helped me a lot I take comfort In knowing I’m not the only 1 in this situation at the end of the day if Mother Nature gave some of us girls some boobage in the first place we wouldn’t have to go through all this good luck with everything huni always can find some1 to speak to on here 🙂 xxx

I would be looking for new friends aswell as new boobs, maybe get your surgeon to perform a personality transplant on them once your implants are in, don’t let it get to you, it sounds to me like your having the op for all the right reasons so just basque in excitement when there at school because literaly this is school girl stuff, massive hooray for your Mam for such a life changing gift xxx

Thank you Chloe. Im feeling a lot more up beat. Sorry your going through a similar thing. But hopefully we will be happy with the end results​. And be blessed with what we’ve never had. Do you know what implants and cc your having? Xx

Ha funny thing is Claudine my mum said pretty much the same thing. New boobies, new friends. I honestly don’t know why i let it upset me so much. Just had a bit of a moment. I know I’m so lucky to have her!!! Xx

I think it’s disgusting your friends treating you like that. For people who aren’t flat chested they cannot understand why its so important to have your boobs done. I know one friend said I’ve got small boobs which is true but she had no idea how cross that made me feel. If they are real friends they will like you whatever decision you make over your appearance. Do what you think is right and positive for yourself. I have not told people I’m getting mine done because sadly people can be so judgemental and negative and these sort of people are not worth spending time with!

I’m the same Jen, I’ve not told anyone the only ones that know are my kids and boyfriend, my sisters got my share I think lol, so I know thay wouldn’t have any idea how it feels. I refuse to wear crapy clothes any more, determind to get myself conference. Bugger the lot of them do it for your self. Let as know how you get on. X

Hi Nicki dr mounir advised between 325-375 gonna go for 350cc high profile unders what are u having? Xx

Your both completely right. These are the only two people i have told (apart from my mum and sister who are both truly happy for me) They both know how much this bothers me so i just cant understand why all a sudden they are being abit narky about it. I have spoke about it alot to my best friend and maybe she’s just fed up with hearing about it. I did say if you had boobs like mine you would understand and feel the same way about it. She just said no i would be happy with the fact that I’m skinny and just shut me down. If it comes up in conversation i get ohhh this again!!

When she was planning her wedding it’s all she ever spoke about. I wasn’t mean about it, i jumped on her band waggon. Joined the excitement for her. So i suppose I’m just a bit hurt that she can’t be excited and happy for me.

I know this is all so bloody petty and i honesty don’t know why i have let it up set me so much. Anyways​ tomorrow’s a new day!!

I was told I could go up 2 390cc moderate plus unders. I’ve never seen anyone with my stats go 2 such a big implant so worried that might be 2 big for me. But then most people go for hp. And i do love the pics people have posted with hp. I don’t know about you just feel a bit stressed about making the right decision. So I’m just going to go with what my surgeon has said and hope for the best. When is your opinion Hun? Xx

Yeah our surgeons will know what’s best for our frames and what we’re wanting to achieve. I’ve noticed a lot of girls have wished they’d gone bigger but I don’t know if u feel same as your very small chested too but I’d be happy with anything as long as I’ve got boobs I don’t want them too big tho and to look out of place that’s not the look I’m going for… who’s your surgeon and have u booked it? Mines booked for 18th may but there ringing me up tomorrow supposingly as there going to try fit me in on the 8th may … hope they do more time to heal before summer xxx

At the end of the day it’s your body your decision and your money not theirs xx as you have probably read on this forum loads of us girls are happy with our results and so glad we’ve had the surgery x it’s something you’ve thought about for years so it’s not some split decision x as someone said earlier sounds like a little bit of the green eyed monster xx hope all our support has helped you xx jackie

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