19 and need advice! Started by: Lily

Don’t let it put you off it’s the best thing I ever did … knowing you don’t have to live with such a negative view of your body … there defently done with growing … no need to tell him until your going to actual appointments make it clear your 100% sure and your so self conscious your going for a natural size regardless of what you actually want I have 775 and I can still cover them easy … my biggest regret was wasting so much time so go for it 🙂 x

Hi lily, I am 22 and having mine done next Tuesday. I am lucky in that my parents have gradually come to understand and be fine with my decision, since I started thinking about it seriously when I was 19-20. I went to the initial clinic appointments alone and then told my parents what I was looking into doing. They brushed it off at first, but then my mum recalled how upset I was going through puberty (hating shopping, refusing to wear a bikini on family holidays) and when I told her how much I still dislike my body, and that it’s stopping me enjoying life. she really came around. And my dad also realised how upset I was and he came around too and now they have supported me both emotionally and financially. Really sorry that you feel like you can’t tell your dad 🙁 but like others have said, I’m expecting the recovery period to be tricky in terms of how much physical stuff you can do and you’re going to need someone that can chaperone you after surgery, look after you and help you with menial stuff for the first few weeks at least, who can help you get to and from your post-op examinations, from what I’ve been told. And like you said, if some complication arose…. I don’t know if your boyfriend/other family member can be this person instead of your dad. It’s a hard subject to address but do you think you could ever change his feelings towards surgery? If you poured your heart out and told him how much it upset you and how much you think it could change your life, do you think he would start to soften? I think some parents realise that they can’t stop you in the end, especially if you’re financially able to do it yourself without his help, and they have to come to terms with it. Maybe if you went to the initial consultation and then informed him of your plans, what would he say?