Advice needed!!

So I had my initial consultation a couple of weeks ago, went really well was really happy with everything and booked myself in for a consultation with a surgeon the week after.

However after a chat with family and friends I ended up cancelling the consultation and now I’m really regretting it.

I’m a recently single parent to a 3 year old and everyone has said to me that I have to think about my daughter and that I could use the money to take her on a really good holiday and wait and save up again. I have also just lost 4 and half stone in the past couple of years so my boobs have changed and I’ve lost my confidence a little bit. My sister says I just need to get used to my body and re visit this in a year or so as having a breast enlargement has only been in the pipe line for a few months.

Can anyone give me any advice or if you’ve been in a similar situation because I have no idea what to do!

Hi Jess, that must be such a tough situation to be in.
I’m now almost 2 weeks post op and none of my family, not even my boyfriend wanted me to have the procedure done, but I booked my consultation and went with my mum who wasn’t impressed but didn’t want me to go alone, and I basically sat everyone down with a cuppa tea and said to them that it will make me happy and make me feel like the best me I can be. I told them truthfully that I could never expect any of them to support me fully and agree to me having it done, but they also can’t stop me and I really needed their support. And to my surprise they really done me proud. They all wanted to see the information paperwork when I came back from my surgeon consultation, and they all signed a book for me to take with me on the day that said how much they love me and respect my decision, and how it will never change the way they we are as a family. Don’t get me wrong, it wasn’t exactly smooth sailing, everyone says something that grinds on your nerves at some point before the surgery. But they really were there for me. Hopefully my experience might shed some light on what to expect from your family, or at least give you some reassurance.
I have to admit, I have thought about having a breast enlargement for about 3 years before having it done, but I don’t think there’s any right or wrong amount of time to have it in mind for. The surgeons won’t let you book anything if they don’t think your completely sure or that maybe it’s not right for you, I learned that with my surgeon ms Lutz who was really good.
Don’t let it upset you though, everything happens for a reason, hopefully you get the result you want x feel free to message me with anything

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We took our 4 and 2 year olds to disneyland Paris last December as their Xmas present. For 4 days it cost £3500 (flights, hotel, transfers, meals and spends). They kids weren’t impressed- too young to appreciate it!
The reason I’m telling you this is because most 3 year olds would be the same- enjoying moments of it yes but they’re better waiting and having big holidays when they’re old enough to remember it and appreciate it.

In the meantime you could spend over £3500 on your boobs and enjoy them every single day! Just because you’re a parent it doesn’t mean you have to be second best every single day and every single situation! If you do this operation and it gives you a new found confidence then it is worth every penny and teaching your daughter a lesson to go after what you want!

I understand that your family think they have your best intentions at heart but have they listened to what you want? I didn’t tell my family! Still haven’t and I’m 4 weeks post op!

Good luck sweetheart and go for what YOU think will make YOU happy!

I personally think you should do what you want to do to make yourself feel happy and confident. As said above, just because you’re a parent it doesn’t mean you can’t make decisions that make you happy. I’m sure your confidence and radiance from having the procedure will show to your daughter and everyone else around you.
My other half really didn’t want me to have mine done, but yesterday I had my surgery and although early days, I already know it’s the best decision I’ve made.
Absolutely go for it! X

Thank you so much guys! You have definitely given me food for thought. Need to do what I want, think everyone seems to have an opinion on what I do and what I spend my money on because I’m the primary parent. Think I’m going to contact my coordinator and organise a consultation with the surgeon and then make a decision from there. Feel like just going for it and dealing with what everyone else thinks later! Xxx

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