Confessing your surgery

Hi girls

Just need a bit of advice please.
I’m having my op on September 12th, I’m not a mya patient and it’s actually abroad. My time is booked off work and a few of my colleagues know but not everyone.

The trouble I’m having is telling my parents. I still live at home as I’ve been an idiot with my money when a lot younger and only just come out the other side (hence waiting until 31 for my operation). How did you guys broach the subject? We’re quite close and so they are very aware of my want for surgery but I think they thought I’d never go through with it.. And now I’m in a situation where it’s weeks away and I’m absolutely bricking it, they’re not going to be happy about it being abroad, let’s face it we’ve watched botched up bodies

Any ideas or help would be amazing, I feel sick at the thought….

I felt sick to tell ppl but at the end of the day your a grown women who can make her own choices wether rightir wrong in others opinions, Id just ell your parents and they can either support u or not but you don’t need their permission and shouldn’t feel like you do, they have to accept you have researched your clinic and have made that choice, u live once so do wat makes u happy if ppl are not happy for u sod them xx

I completely understand. I told my dad and mum no problem because I knew they’d be chilled about it.. I’ve lived in my own since 17 so I’ve always been independent but I can’t tell my in laws… they live across the road and do so much for me and my fella. My mother in law is 74 and really, really old fashioned and my sister in law had a mastectomy and refused to have artificial implants- instead opting to have muscle from her back put into her chest. A very big op.
I literally cannot tell them and it’s so hard. I hope you figure it out. If you do then please let me know as my op is next Wednesday:).
Good Luck xxx

write down all the cons of your surgery, how you managed your financials with it, the kind of procedure and how beneficial it would be to you, I am sure they want to see their girl happy, show them how you chose a reputable place so it gives them piece of mind, read it to yourself as if you are reading it to them, try and guess how they will react, and then make the decision wether to tell them, and remember if you decide not to how would that affect their trust, and consider the fact that is surgery so there is not garantees that all will go 100% and being it abroad might be harder to fix any glitches, and you might need them. I told my mother, she wasn’t happy until I showed her my deflated breast after breastfeeding horrible skin, she understood and now is coming from Portugal for 2 weeks in October to help me with my baby. Sorry I don’t have any other advice other than like ripping a band aid. Xx

Telling them is definitely the best option especially when you live at home as they will most likely have to help you out at some point during your recovery. As others have said at the end of the day you’re a grown woman and shouldn’t have to answer to anybody about what you do to enhance your own self-confidence 🙂 I do understand the struggle though as I have only told a select few about my op (this Thursday) just because I don’t want anyone gossiping! my partner obviously knows then my mum, a few of my closest friends and grandma and my boss at work (only told him as I’m a teacher, didn’t want anything to go wrong meaning that I wouldn’t be back for my new class in September if the worst came to worst). I almost feel guilty for not telling some of my other friends etc but I’ve come to the conclusion that if anyone asks I’ll ‘admit’ it, if they don’t, then they don’t need to know! Good luck!! Xx

Thank you so much, I’ve only just got these posts now as been busy all day…

I have to tell them, I can’t not really I’m just absolutely at a loss as to how I’m going to drop it in. Obviously they’re going to be worried, it’s natural I’m sure, but I don’t think I’ve done my self any favours in the situation by opting to go abroad. Not from the fact I haven’t researched, it’s literally all I do even now, but the fact that if I’d gone with mya I was only going to be an hour away from home.

They’re so laid back, usually we can talk about anything, but this is just something I wasn’t expecting to feel at all!

And to top it off I’ve just done my boob or bust measurements out of curiosity and I’ve come out at a ridiculous size (32GG) (I already wear a 34E) so they’re going to be absolutely obscene hahaha xxx

I didn’t tell my mum until after my surgery, I was planning not to tell her at all. I always role very padded bras before. Reluctantly I had to say after as I needed much help to cook my meals as the recovery meant lifting things was harder than I thought. I was scared s*** on the phone but announced it by saying “I have to tell you something, I have been in hospital and please do not get cross with me for this, I won’t be able you accept it if you do…. my friends have had this done” as soon sort of lead in to prepare her. She was not happy from her tone of voice but accepted my decision and felt sorry how I felt with my boobs before.

I’m hoping I’m working myself up for nothing and that she’ll not be happy but not disappointed! I think I’ll try your approach Jennifer, who knew that this would be the most stressful part of my surgery haha x

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