Nervous and need advice!

So basically since I was about 13 I knew my boobs were tiny and I’ve hated then to the point I never wear tops that show them openly. I used to wear two bras when going out. I’m a 32A and I always have to wear padded. I’ve been wanting a boob job for years and I guess I’ve never had the money. But now this is where I don’t know what to do.
Ive now got the money but it was from my inheritance, the rest of it is for like mortgage and house etc. But right now i have enough to pay for the procedure. I’m not actually sure how much they cost but I’m guessing about 5000 after reading other people’s stories. I know it would take me over a year to save for it and pay upfront by myself :/ I know I’ll get rejected for finance as due to my job I have a flat above my pub. So the address usually stops it. I haven’t told any of my family about me wanting one apart from my sister but I feel like using the money I have is wrong in a way :/ like I should save for it. Then if I do use the money my family will know I’ve used that money for it. Both my sisters have big boob. I’m the youngest who got nothing. But I just want to see what people would do if they had my situation. Do I use the money? Pay a big deposit and see if the finance go’s through or try and save.
Also I’m nervous about the surgery, I’ve never been put to sleep before and want to know what it all feels like. How long does it take to fall asleep after they inject you. And what happens when you wake up?
So sorry for the essay and questions

Thank you for reading 🙂

Alex xx

It’s a hard one. A lot of people still have such a negative view on cosmetic surgery and think its just vanity to spend so much money on your looks, but people need to realise that it can actually enhance your life when you feel good about yourself. Would your family understand this? I think it’s completely understandable to spend your inheritance on it. I took out a personal loan to be able to afford my operation. I knew I’d never be able to save the money and I didn’t want to waste any more years hating my looks.

I had my operation 10 days ago and like you, I haven’t really experienced being put to sleep so I was terrified whilst waiting to be taken for surgery. It’s honestly nothing to worry about though, they make you feel at ease and before I knew it they were asking me to count backwards from 10. I only got as far as 9 and the next thing I knew, I was waking up in recovery. At no point did I have any really bad pain, it’s more of just an uncomfortable, tight feeling. You just have to prepare yourself mentally for not being able to move much in the first week! That being said, no matter how scared I was, how skint I am going to be or what other people thought about it, I know I’ve definitely made the right decision by going ahead and I think you just have to go with your gut. Hope you can work it out xx

Thank you for replying! I think my parents would be shocked, and surprised. Not sure if they would agree to it I don’t have a foggy if they would see it as a good or bad thing. Part of me is just like it is my own choice and it is for me no one else. My sister understood me 100% so I know she would be wanting me to go for it but not sure she would want me to use the money. And my boyfriend said he be there too. I feel like if I used the money my mum might be wondering where I got it from. I think I’d have to wait a couple of months before I did anything. I kind of want to try get some money together but I know it won’t be much. I feel better about using it now. I just don’t know how to tell them after.
Oh wow! That is very quick! Do they give you any painkillers to help with the pain? How long did it take for you to be able to move again normally? Have you got any advice to help with the recovery? Sorry for all the questions!xx

I got codeine, strong ibuprofen and paracetamol. I only used the codeine for the first few days though as it tends to have some bad side effects and my pain wasn’t too bad. The worst part has honestly been not being able to get comfortable. You have to sleep upright so my back ached, then my legs ached from not walking as much as I normally do and my arms seized up a bit from not moving them ha. It definitely gets better though. I’m back at work, back driving and living much more normally and I’m only 10 days po.

Maybe you could have a look on a loan comparison site to see if you can get a loan if you are worried about using your inheritance? You can usually do a soft search before applying to check your eligibility before it affects your credit score. I find that personal loans are much better interest rates than the loan companies associated with the cosmetic surgery companies x

Personally I would use the money even not using it and getting a loan will have the same effect on your mortgage because they will
Deduct that monthly loan of say £150 off and that might add up to lending you 20k + less so it’s better to have nothing in your name … you can get the procedure cheaper so shop around … life is a little short to be unhappy it’s not like your like me who has an ok size pair ands just being greedy if you have nothing and have to wear 2 bras then that’s not on spend your money … this is what I would do

You only get one shot at this life so you absolutely have to do what makes you happy! Focus on how you really feel inside and forget about what anyone else thinks. Those who matter shouldn’t mind and those who mind shouldn’t matter! I had never once been bothered about having small boobs, but after I lost almost four stones in weight I was left with really ugly, saggy, empty boobs and even though I loved the rest of my new body and was so proud of what I had achieved, ultimately I was so disappointed that my boobs were ruining the way I looked and so I knew I had to do something to put that right.

My credit is shot to pieces and I still managed to get a loan (albeit at a terrible interest rate) to finance my procedure. If you go on Experian and type in all your details it will recommend the companies that are most likely to approve you for credit, and potentially some companies can offer you a preapproved deal which guarantees you’ll be accepted. I could have got a loan to consolidate some of my existing debt or paid a chunk off my mortgage but I just needed to do this for me. To make matters even worse at the time of getting my loan I was also in a fixed term temporary job with no guarantee of extension past May 2020 so I actually took my loan out not even knowing whether I would even have the means to repay it fully. Luckily enough I’ve now been offered a permanent position so I’m all sorted on that front, but that was how desperate I was to get this fixed, I had to take the gamble. I couldn’t walk around with what I was left with on my chest. I dreaded the thought of potentially in the future ending up in a new relationship or something and somebody ever having to see the state of my awful boobs. I couldn’t accept that that was the state of my body and so leaving it be was not an option.

I actually loved the feeling of being put to sleep, it was so calming and relaxing and peaceful. It probably took about four seconds or so for me and that was it. I woke up with no pain at all. I just felt so much relief that it was all done and I felt proud of myself for having gone through with it. At first I was just so tired and not even really with it at all, and the next few hours just flew by in a blur. I didn’t even take the codeine they gave me afterwards, I just took paracetamol as a precaution, the same as I do whenever I’ve had my lips or my teeth done. As a comparison, getting my lips done hurts me way more than getting my boobs done did. My chest muscles were just very tight, stiff and achey afterwards and so I was limited with what I could do for a little while. I didn’t leave the house for the first four days, I just took things very but after that my recovery progressed pretty quickly and I was back to all of my normal activities pretty much after 16 days; work, driving, even very light exercise.

Just think about it really carefully, do all your research, ask as many questions as possible, meet with as many companies and as many surgeons as you feel you need to in order to make up your mind. If it’s what you really want, then absolutely go for it! Life’s way too short to be unhappy.

Go for it! Another option is maybe using your inheritance but “pay yourself back” over time? Maybe set up a standing order for x amount a month and leave it? I know it sounds a bit silly but maybe it will help you feel less guilty about doing it and it means you don’t have to worry about finance/loans when you really don’t need too xx I have guilty feelings too, I’ve got 4 kids (one is grown up) and 3 age 12 and under.. It means we can’t go abroad this year and I feel awful about it but I took them twice last year and we are going on a UK holiday soon. I’ve spent the past 21 years putting their needs and wants first and I’m 40 in September so decided this is my year! I’ve got to be Jodie too not just mum xx Do it make yourself happy life is far too short xx

Alex I had inheritance money which I used to fund my procedure, I didn’t feel bad at all using it as I needed it to feel more in proportion and to feel more comfortable/confident in myself. I told my parents my intentions of using some inheritance to fund it, they supported my decision. The way I saw it was that money was left to me to spend/use it how I wished, my biggest wish was to have boobs and now I have. I believe the relative that left the money would be pleased that I’ve used some of it to feel happier in myself. Definitely the best decision I’ve ever made, life’s for living and in that life you have to be happy 🙂
The aneasthetic is a breeze honestly, once they’ve put a cannula in (sharp scratch like having blood taken) you’ll be asleep before you know it. Staff are so calming and reassuring really put patients at ease.
Good luck with everything, I really hope you get the boobs you desire ?

Hi Alex, I was the same! A 32A, always wanted one, I’m 35 now and had two kids so felt I was ready and knew for sure I wanted it. I got some inheritance too and have used money from it to pay (with the intention to pay half of it back over time). Don’t feel guilty about how you choose to spend it. The people who have passed will want you to be happy. I had a bit of a wobble in the bath on Fri night, the night before my op, asking myself “what am I doing? What would mum say?” And I know she’d tell me I didn’t need it doing but I also knew if she were here she’d be on the phone checking on me, visiting me with food I didn’t ask for, making jokes etc…basically supporting me. I understand the pressure of feeling/wanting to invest the money…but you are: in yourself.
My mum passed suddenly/unexpectedly. This has probably really influenced my decision making as in I just go for it now because I’ve seen you just never know when your numbers up.
You do what makes you happy sweet. This is your life and you’re an adult. Big hugs xx

Thank you all so much for replying to me. You have all given me the confidence to use this money to get what I’ve been wanting for years. Thank you so much for telling me your stories and how the feeling of going under is like. I don’t feel as nervous now. My plan is to get a consultation this year (take my friend for support) and see what I can get done and the money option. I wouldn’t feel as guilty if I put maybe a big deposit down and paid monthly. So I did use alot of the inheritance. I’m currently watching YouTube videos and reading lots of other girls stories to learn how it all happens. But really I need to stop and actually go for myself. I probably won’t tell my parents tell after I’ve done it, then they don’t have to worry and they can’t make me change my decision. I’m nearly 25 and I want to enjoy being in my twentys feeling confident and sexy rather then the little girl I feel like and look like.
Again I can’t thank you all enough, I keep reading back over the comments. Thank you all and hopefully next time I’ll be posting will be with news of the next steps 🙂 xxxx

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