Telling Mum

Hi all

So I have reserved an op date but I am not going to get too excited yet as my biggest worry at the moment is telling my mum as I have no idea how she is going to react.

Did anyone else get anxiety about this? Did it go better than you thought and how did you go about it?

Thanks In advance! Xxx

Hi Hannah, I had the same worry about telling my Mum but I was really surprised how supportive she was. I started by saying that she probably wouldn’t like what I was going to tell her. Once I explained my reasons she was great about it. She just said if it was what I wanted and if i’d Found the best doctor she was happy for me.

Hi Hannah,

I was the same, I told my mum by handing her the paperwork. We had a chat and she was really happy for me. Mum’s Being mum’s they always worry but it’s natural. She will be fab xxx

I am in the same situation, op booked for a months time just over & still not had the right time to say to my mum… she is amazing, but there is 30 odd years apart from us so we are bound to see things differently…. hoping I get the same reaction as all you girlies.
Once I have told her I will feel like I can really start to enjoy my journey is that make sense… xx

My mum really didn’t like the idea. She still doesn’t. And I knew that before I booked so was also so anxious to tell her. We’re quite close and I always take her advice and listen to her and it was hard knowing this was something she’s dead not into. When I told her which I ended up doing just really casuallly because I just couldn’t deal with the stress, it was more of a “oh because I’m getting my boobs done that week, just so you know”. She actually just said ok darling. She hasn’t exactly been interested in it all, obviously asked all the usual mum questions about was I getting into debt for it? Was I going to someone safe? But she still really doesn’t want to like see them or anything haha. But that’s fine by me. She’s not had the best reaction but she would never make it difficult for me and would support me no matter her opinions because that’s what mums do. I know in a few months time my boobs won’t even be a talking point anymore so it really won’t matter wherher she likes it or not. It’s your body after all. Mums naturally are going to think your perfect just the way you are. But don’t be scared honestly this your decision she doesn’t have to be involved your only letting her know as courtesy. I’m sure she’ll take it better than you think. Good luck with it just go tell her! X

thank you girls for all of your advice and reassurance so far 🙂 its means a lot! xx

I had my surgeon consultation and booked my op date this week so I told my mum like a day or 2 after.. I was so anxious it took me a couple of hours to build up to tell her haha! The first thing she said was why? She basically said she wasn’t expecting it at all, she also had a pre-concieved opinion on fake boobs ‘looking really fake and stuck on’ and not suited to their body frame at all like you see with celebs on the telly and stuff and i just explained I’m only going up about 2 cup sizes and trying to go as natural looking as possible. I knew she wouldn’t really approve because it’s an alien concept to her, we don’t know anyone who’s had their boobs done and my mum or anyone in my family have never had any issues with the shape or size of their boobs like I have. But after chatting about it she said well as long as you’re happy that’s all that matters. And she even asked if I wanted her to come with me, but it’s over an hours journey so my boyfriend is bringing me. Honestly just bite the bullet and go for it, once it’s done it’s done and it’s a huge weight off your shoulders then 🙂 good luck! X

I’m in the same position but it’s actually my fiancée parents I worry about! My family have known this is always something I’ve talked about doing, but I think his mum in particular will be dead against it, I just don’t want her making things awkward. She’s so lovely and only wants the best for me, but sometimes she isn’t always correct like she thinks she is ???? Xxx

@clara89 omg same!! I’m not bothered about anything my family will say just my boyfriends family! I just have the feeling they’d be fine about it to my face but secretly judging me and think I’m a fake tart or something! I don’t want it to change their opinion of me but have a feeling it will. I’m hoping that they won’t notice, with it being winter I won’t have anything on show and I won’t see them until 2weeks PO but I’ll be going up at least 2 cup sizes so I think they might notice? I’m probably worrying about that more than the op itself haha! Xx

Hopefully they will take it a lot better than you think and don’t judge you! personally I don’t really care what anyone else thinks I just worry so much about what my own mum will think and I don’t want her to judge me. I just hate rejection, you know? I guess I have realised from this I’m not actually comfortable with confronting my mum with anything personal and I don’t really like to talk about things and that has hit me quite hard xx

@hamos94 yeah I understand. I wasn’t close to my mum for years up until the last couple of years and even then I never really speak to her about anything personal like sex or boobs etc like some girls do. It doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with your relationship with your mum, you can’t help who you can and can’t feel comfortable with in certain situations. The thing about your own family is that in most cases even if they don’t approve of something they’ll get over it, get used to the idea and overall still accept you for who you are, non-relatives don’t tend to do that. That’s why I’m not as bothered about my family’s opinions 🙂 I could tell when I told my mum she didn’t approve of the BA but she knows I’ve made the decision because I’m not happy with how I am atm and she said as long as I’m happy after the op that’s fine, even though she didn’t approve of it personally 🙂 I hope it goes well with your mum! Xx

Hiya / I have my op on Thursday and so far haven’t told my mum. I won’t tell her now till afterwards, which I feel dreadful about. I just don’t want her to worry and as a mother myself I decided I’d rather not know if it were me. It’s adding to my anxiety for sure.

@ljx6 Lorna that’s lovely thank you, such nice words. thanks for your advice I really appreciate it. Hopefully I will be able to update you with some positive news soon and your inlaws will accept it for you to 🙂 xx

Suzy – It is adding to mine too, already, so I can imagine how you feel. I understand your decision not to tell her and I have thought about that too, but I don’t want to regret not talking to her about it. Hope it goes okay for you when you tell her afterwards 🙂

@hamos94 no worries at all you’re welcome! 🙂 honestly I was so anxious but I thought well she’s going to find out anyway (we live together too) and I think she’d be more offended if I hadn’t told her beforehand, plus I’d have felt more guilty too. Sending luck your way! You’ll be fine! 🙂 thank you me too! Xx

@clara89 I have the same worry about my boyfriend’s parents! I’ve never been the one to wear revealing clothes around them but I have been faking my size by wearing booster bras (the ones that make you 2x bigger!). Here’s hoping that after the op, I can wear normal bras and they’ll just think I’m the same size as always xD

Not that I’m advocating not telling anyone haha but just FYI I didn’t tell my aunties and I had dinner with them last night and I mean they’re pretty big lol and no one noticed. I ended up telling them as I had planned to. But neither of them noticed. I wasn’t in a low cut too or anything only 11dpo but they still loooked big in a tight top lol. I doubt in laws will notice.

That’s so reassuring haha! I only ever see my oh’s parents every few months, his dad more than his mum it’s not often I see her. And it’s probably her I’m more worried about lol! So I’m hoping with it being winter I’ll just be wearing jumpers and coats and she wont be able to tell 🙂

Hi girls

Just to let you know I met with my mum tonight and told her and she has been absolutely amazing xxx

@hamos94 omg so pleased for you! It’s such a big weight off your shoulders isn’t it. Now can just concentrate on looking forward to new boobs and recovering 😀 xxx

Ah amazing hannah so pleased for u! Now you can start enjoying the journey x

Thank you ladies ???? xxx

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