Worrying too much and can't make up my mind – back and forth!

Hi girls,

Anyone been in a similar “back and forth” state of mind about getting a BA?

I always think about having bigger and nicer boobs, however I worry about what if the surgery goes wrong, what if i don’t like my results even a year later, what if i might need further surgery ( I don’t have the money just there!) The pain i’ll be in, how long I truly need from work, how long till I can drive, do usual things like carry shopping or even just being able to stretch my arms, how to keep my surgery discreet, any health effects or mental effects in the future etc…

So then I think its better to not go ahead and I tell myself I prefer them natural and will save myself money and worries however I think i’m just lying to myself since i’ve never really like my boobs and think about how much better I will feel with them if get them done!
– And now i’m back looking at everyones experiences and pics wishing I could get myself some boobs!

And then the cycle continues!!

And I keep putting it off, I start saving then stop and use the money for something else, and then blame it on not having the money, but one day it will be there and i’m just wondering if I will really go ahead with it!

So i’m just wondering if you have been or are going through all this, and if any girls HAD a BA and are still back and forth – maybe regret or wanting want more etc.. or maybe had a BA and finally stopped worrying?
Haha urm thanks for reading this LONG post!

Hiya, I can really relate to what your saying! I always knew I waned mine done, I’m slim and really flat chested. I won’t even take my kids swimming as I’m that insecure in swimwear, I always have high neck tops on etc. I told myself even if I end up getting them done I want to have all my babies first and breastfeed. Cut a long story short I’m now 26, got 3 kids, married and no more babies so I decided now was the right time for me. I’ve put it off so long mostly due to been terrified of been put to sleep but needs must and my surgery is tomorrow!! I think you’ll just know when the time is right for you and you’ll just do it. Maybe meet with a patient coordinator and see how that goes and your mind might be made up xxx

To be honest.. no. I’ve wanted my boobs done since I was about 15. Although there was negatives to having a BA, none of them even came close to all the positives of having one. I think that it’s such a big decision and unless you 100% know it’s what you want, maybe you don’t actually want it if you know what I mean?x

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@beclx good luck! Hope it all goes well today!! Thanks, I think I will meet with a PC and take it from there! xxx

@patsymphillips thanks for your response! Yeah I always used to think I will just get a boob job and that’s it, but family and friends I’ve spoke to all make it seem like it’s a bad idea – and then I start having doubts and thinking of things I haven’t even given any thought to before! How have your family and friends been?? To me it seems like a dream, like i’m ‘ nearly ‘ having a BA lol x

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Try not to let them influence you too much! It’s your body after all 🙂 luckily all my family and friends were really supportive and understood that this was something that I really wanted and would make me feel more confident etc. I had the odd few people (mainly men) at work that couldn’t see why I was getting it done and thought it was a silly idea but I just didn’t let their opinions effect me as I knew it was what I wanted x

I was exactly like this! Wanted a boob job since I was around 14/15, was desperate for one til I got older and always talked myself out of it for one reason or another.

I’m 25 now and just put a deposit on a date for surgery, I do still think am I doing the right thing but I just want to be happy with myself so why not!

Xx

This is exactly how I feel, sometimes I think to myself why would I put myself through this, it’s so expensive and I don’t want to keep having surgery every 5-10 years and spending all this money, and if it goes wrong I know how much I’ll regret risking my health for cosmetic reasons. There is a long list of cons for me.

But I just can’t get it off my mind, I’ve always considered it, I’ve saved and I just keep thinking about how good other girls look!!
I found a surgeon I really trust and think I’m just going to go for it. I’m only going to keep thinking about it and worrying and I just think maybe I should get it over and done with. If it goes wrong they can be removed, won’t look great but not the end of the world. Have you had a consultation? x

@sian1230 I do think I will go ahead with it, I will never know if I don’t try! I’ve not had any consultations and maybe I should have one just to get the ball rolling xx

I’m exactly the same! I’ve wanted one for years! I finally plucked up the courage last month, booked an appointment then met a surgeon got really excited then suddenly I panicked and now I’m back to over thinking. My mum is really supportive and thinks I should get it done. But I’m so worried as it is a lot of money, and I’m so scared I’ll end up hating them, or they don’t suit me etc. X

@bonniecopesx it feels never ending lol! It’s really good you have your mums support, my mum isn’t so keen :(. Are you going to go back for another consultation?? Maybe that will give you the courage?? 🙂 Right now I’m just stuck to wearing super padded bras haha x

Tell me about it haha! I feel like I know everything I need to know.. it’s just my own anxiety that’s stopping me haha. I don’t think it helped because the surgeon recommended a nipple lift because one is lower than the other so that just threw me straight of again haha. Have you had any consultations yet?? What size are you atm xx

[Saff]

@bonniecopesx I’m 30a I’m tiny on top! Just really want to be proportionate to the rest of my body! You?? I’ve not had any consultations yet, well nervous!x

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lol I was like that and anything that could go wrong happened to me 5 ops inn from everything to ruptured implants my 1st op was 2013 lucky for me the company I went with covered my ops for free that’s most important thing you should do xx

im glad im not the only one who feels like this, I keep thinking its a lot of money to spend on myself but then i think why should i not spend that money on myself i work hard for it, my kids are now older this is my time, For years i have always disliked my chest and now even more so after weight loss and kids, I turn 40 in september so i think do it as a birthday treat, I have had 3 consultations with 3 different clinics and different consulatants, I know i need a full uplift aswell as implants, i think im just scared like you say incase i do not like the end results but i guess its got to be better than the empty skin sacks i have now, x

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